Are You Finding it Hard to Please Your Spouse?
Finding it hard to please your spouse? It could be that you are married to someone that is what I call an amazing contradiction. Read a little more to find out if you are married to such a person.
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Marriage Counseling Questions, Christian
Marriage Counseling Questions
For those that have marriage counseling questions, we have a few options that may help you in your search for answers:
Free Online Counseling Page
Whether you are looking for help with overcoming an affair,
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Finding Happiness in a Difficult Marriage
Is it possible to find happiness in a less than perfect marriage? Are there steps that spouses can take in order to better learn how to be a happy wife or husband in a difficult marital relationship?
Of course, I believe the answer is yes.
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Relationship Problems – How to Handle in a Functional Way
Having Relationship Problems?
Though relationship problems seem to come in all shapes and sizes, it must be understood that there are typically very simple answers to what seems to be rather complex problems. At Hitting Home, we take great delight in providing people a simplified approach to what often feels like very complex issues.
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Friday Night Date Night in Ocala, Florida was a Success
Friday Night Date Night in Ocala, Florida was a Huge Success
We were so blessed to be able to minister and speak at the Friday Night Date Night / Marriage Emphasis night last Friday evening.
Couples from Across the State
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Our Christian Marriage Conference in Flint, Michigan
Flint, Michigan, Christian Marriage Conference
Had a great time in Flint, Michigan last week as we conducted a Christian-based marriage conference.
Amazing Venue
The venue for the conference was the Riverside Tabernacle. This particular building,
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Why Spouses Lose Feelings For Each Other
Is love simply a mirage? Do feelings only belong on the television screen or in the romance novels? Are feelings in a relationship a type of bait so that the human race will continue to procreate? Of course, I believe the answer is in the negative to all of these questions,
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Christian Marriage Book, Bible, Biblical, Scriptures
Why We Use So Many Scriptures in our Christian Marriage Book
As I write this, we are just a few weeks from releasing our Christian marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another. After two years of work, I would like to share why this book is unashamedly packed full of scriptures and Bible verses.
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Alcohol and Adultery, I Peter 5:8
Alcohol and Adultery – Is there a Connection?
Being a pastoral care counselor and a marriage coach, I have assisted multitudes of couples through the devastating effects of adultery. Though alcohol is not always involved in adulterous relationships, it should be noted that I have had many a man and woman tell me that alcohol contributed to their lack of ability to resist temptation.
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Forgiving A Spouse After An Affair
If you are working through forgiving your spouse after an affair, it is important that a few things be present from the very beginning. In fact, I have found that if the following traits are not present, then both are typically filling what I call a bag full of holes.
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Christian Radio Guest – 1420 WFLT, Flint Michigan
Christian Radio Guest Appearance on WFLT 1420 AM
It was a pleasure being a Christian radio guest on WFLT 1420 am today. The radio host was AC Dumas with Pastor Michael Stone of the Power of God Ministries in Flint,
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Biblical Counseling – How to Save Your Marriage
Biblical Counseling – How to Save Your Marriage
Looking for a Biblical way to save your marriage? We trust that you will find this post as well as our articles and resources to be beneficial. We are a truly Christian-based ministry that offers Biblical counseling and life coaching to those looking to save their marriage.
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Pastoral Authority and It’s Limits
I have recently been asked by an old friend, missionary Robert Patenaude, to give my thoughts on the subject of pastoral authority and its limits. I told him that I would love to give my responses, but I might as well kill two birds with one stone and respond in the form of a blog post.
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Relationship Counseling – 3 Rules for Having a Healthy Pre marriage Relationship
Relationship Counseling Advice for Pre marriage Relationships
Having worked with a multitude of singles and pre married couples as a pastor, life coach, and relationship counselor, I have come up with a list of do’s and dont’s for couples in a premarital relationship. Here’s a little relationship counseling advice that should serve to save you or someone you know from traveling down the very bumpy road of dysfunctional dating.
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Relationship Advice – How to Confront Your Spouse
Relationship Advice – How to Confront Your Spouse
The tragedy behind most arguments in marriage is what people fail to say in a calm and peaceful atmosphere, they will typically end up saying in a very heated discussion after much emotional ground is lost.
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Online Counseling – Is it for Me?
Online Counseling – Is it for me?
I have been helping couples for years through our online counseling services, face to face pastoral counseling services, Christian-based resources, and phone coaching services. If I have been asked once, I have been asked a thousand times,
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Christian Marriage Advice versus Secular Advice, Which is Better?
Christian Marriage Advice versus Secular Marriage Advice
I will be the first to admit that God’s laws are universal laws. Therefore, even if a counselor or a therapist is not quoting scripture, some of their teachings may already be found in principle in the scriptures.
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Scheduling Sex – Marriage Tip
Scheduling Sex
Believe it or not but I highly recommend that couples get into the habit of scheduling sex. Here are a few reasons:
It Eliminates Needless Arguments
Men and women tend to have a question mark in the back of their heads as they go through the day.
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Sex Starved Marriage, I Corinthians 7, Defraud
Do You Have a Sex Starved Marriage?
Having a sex starved marriage can be an extremely difficult situation for a number of reasons. A sex starved marriage can lead to sexual temptation (I Corinthians 7:5), feelings of abandonment, feeling of insecurity, a low self worth,
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Free Ebook on Marriage, Counseling, Coaching
Free Ebook on Marriage
Many having financial difficulties are still in need of bonafide marital help. One of the ways that you can receive Christian-based help is to receive our free ebook on marriage called How to Fight for Your Marriage without Fighting with One Another.
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A Pride Test For Your Marriage
Proverbs 13:10 tells us the following:
“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.”
The scriptures make it abundantly clear that pride is the ultimate killer of relationships. Though some may bristle with this idea,
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When You Are Afraid of Losing Your Spouse
When trying to save your marriage, it is vital to stay in the day. That is, I find that many husbands and wives become so overcome by a fear of what may happen tomorrow that they lose the strength needed to face the problems of today. This is one of the greatest mistakes that are made by those afraid of losing their spouse.
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Biblical Way to Resolve Marriage Issues
Biblical Way to Resolve Marriage Issues
The longer I teach on our 2-step process, the more excited I become. Though I will be the first to admit that our 2-step process is far from being a magic bullet or some miracle tonic, it is simply a Biblical way to resolve marriage issues.
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Biblical Roles in Marriage, Why Football is so Popular
Biblical Roles in Marriage
More and more, America is turning into a matriarchal society where the strong aggressive male is being supplanted by the more domineering female. Though some may say, “What is wrong with this?”, I would have to point out that it contradicts God-ordained norms and principles that have been in existence for thousands of years.
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Passive Husband, Dominant Wife, Advice
Advice for the Dominant Woman Married to a Passive Husband
Verbalizing heart issues is often a difficult task. In trying to help the masses, there are some couples whose paradigm is slightly different from most. For this reason, I would like to address an exception to our article about the Proverbs 18:19 principle,
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How Are Husbands To Love Their Wives As Christ Loved The Church?
Many couples have issues because their feelings of hopelessness, apathy, hurt, and anger have been their marriage counselor, guide, and even the god of their marriage (Philippians 3:19 and Romans 6:16). Because they feel negative, they feel they have a right to act negative. This is why I say that part of the first step for the men is to treat their wives like a world class client regardless of how they feel.
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Is It Always Wrong To Be Jealous?
Almost every time we hear the word jealous, it is in a negative context. However, in relation to marriage, I am not so sure that every jealous spouse is in the wrong.
God is Jealous
The scriptures teach that God is Jealous in Exodus 34:14.
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Withdrawals and Deposits
If as a husband you feel like you are always dealing with an upset wife, you may need to consider your role in the matter. This is one of my favorite little illustrations to use for husband learning to help their constantly upset wife.
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A Husband Has 1 Of 3 Choices
In chapter 8 of our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, Dr. Raymond Force discusses the 3 choices that husbands have when faced with difficulties in a marriage. Here is a little food for thought from our marriage book.
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Glorifying God through Marriage
Glorifying God Through Marriage
The concept of glorifying God through marriage seems to be lost in our pursuit of having happier marriages. Here is another little blurp out of our book on marriage that deals with glorifying God through marriage.
The Purpose of Obedience to God
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Is There Hope For My Marriage?
You may have happened to stumble across our site with the thought in your mind, “Is there hope for my marriage?”. That being the case, I have a few words to say in regards to this question.
Divorce Is Not Necessarily The End
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Christian Marriage Conference, Flint, MI 2014, Seminar, Retreat
Christian Marriage Conference, Flint Michigan, August 16th, 2014
We are looking forward to ministering at the Keep my Marriage on Track marriage seminar on Saturday, August the 16th, 2014 in Flint, Michigan.
During the Christian marriage conference,
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Must I Be Hen-pecked To Save My Marriage?
To fix your marriage, you sometimes have to appear to lose before winning. The Bible has a word for this. It is called meekness.
Must I be Henpecked to Fix My Marriage?
Some men may feel that I am encouraging them to be what some would deem to be hen-pecked in order to fix their marriage.
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Church on Marriage, Parenting, Home, Family
The Beliefs of the Church on Marriage
It is a blessing to see that many of the books on marriage and marriage conferences of our day are church sponsored. This is a great testimony to the world that the church has legitimate answers on the most important institution of all,
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God in Marriage, The Importance of Having God in a Marriage
Is it important to have God in marriage? Of course, as a pastor and Bible teacher, I believe the answer is a resounding yes. But, here is a short story as to why it is vital to have God in marriage relationships. I hope you enjoy this little sage illustration concerning our family excursions.
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How to Feel Differently About Your Spouse
If you find yourself constantly thinking, “I have no feelings for my husband or wife anymore.”, it is vital to understand that feelings have no engine of their own. Feelings are pulled around by thoughts and actions. Therefore, if you are going to see a change in the way you feel about your spouse,
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Divorce and Remarriage, Adultery, Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9
What did Christ say about divorce and remarriage? We have a sample of His teachings on divorce, remarriage, and adultery in Matthew’s gospel. Though this is a topic marriage speakers seem to shy away from, Jesus made it front and center in His teachings.
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The Holy Spirit Will Always Get Along With Himself
I am a firm believer that every home without Christ is incomplete. Here is another excerpt from our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, that shows us why Christ is the Supreme Need for every marriage.
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Raising the Floor of Your Marriage
Many couples having issues fail to ever learn the art of fighting fair in a marriage. Below are a few tips to help you to excel at fighting fair in marriage.
Raise the Floor
Most of us know that we should set high goals and raise the standard for excellence in our marriages.
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Finding Happiness in Marriage, Spiritual Joy
Having difficulties finding happiness in marriage? It could be that you need to set a higher goal than simply your own happiness. Here is an excerpt from chapter 1 of our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another.
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Marriage Is A 2-Piece Puzzle
It seems that much of our so called Christian-based material seems to fall short of understanding the purpose of marriage. The chief end to marriage is not our own happiness, but God’s glory.
The Why Behind the What
During our marriage conferences,
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How to Have Healthy Communication in a Marriage
In order to have healthy communication in marriage, you will need to learn how to remove yourself form the emotions of the moment. Here are some steps to learning how to do so.
Why Marriage Counseling Fails for Some
In spite of seeing a number of counselors,
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Sarcastic Husband, Wife
Are you Married to a Sarcastic Husband or Wife?
Married to a sarcastic husband or wife? Dr. Force believes that sarcasm has rarely served a useful purpose in the average home.
Here are a few more rules for talking with your spouse that should help you in your quest to talk in a safer manner with one another.
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Nonverbal Communication, Tone of Voice
The Power of Nonverbal Communication in a Marriage or Premarital Relationship
It has been said that ninety percent of communication is non-verbal communication. That being the case, we must be careful to watch not only what we are saying, but how we are saying it.
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How to Have a Discussion, Argue, Children, Ephesians 4:26
Guidelines for How to Have a Discussion with Your Spouse
Even the vilest of enemies have learned to have a certain amount of respect for the rules of war. That being the case, couples in need should learn to follow a set of guidelines when learning how to have a discussion with one another.
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Christian Marriage Conference Florida, 2014, Seminar, Ocala
Christian Marriage Conference Florida, 2014
We are looking forward to our Marriage Emphasis Night on Friday, August the 22nd at 7 PM. This will be held at the Luxurious Marion Ballroom in Ocala, FL, and it will begin at 7 PM.
A catered Italian dinner will be served,
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Ways to Work on Communication in a Relationship
As a pastoral care counselor, I have worked with a good many of couples desiring new ways to work on communication in a relationship. Here is a major communication killer that I have noticed in almost every struggling marriage or relationship.
A Huge Communication Killer
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Name Calling in Marriage, Cursing, Ephesians 4:29
Cursing and Name Calling in Marriage
It is amazing how marriage has a way of making the most sophisticated of adults act like two children fighting on a playground. When this occurs, spouses often resort to name calling. If you are working at overcoming cursing and name calling in marriage,
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Marriage Counseling MP3, Free Online Help
Free Online Christian Marriage Counseling MP3
A few years ago, I was able to conduct a Christian marriage conference in York, PA at Grace Fellowship Church. I remember the marriage conference being a wonderful time of learning and encouragement for many couples.
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Rules for Communication in Marriage, Yelling, Physical
Couples Should have Rules for Communication in Marriage
When helping couples to learn how to communicate, I often help them to set up what I call a safety fence. This safety fence is a set of rules for communication in marriage that help couples to know when they are getting into what I call a danger zone.
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