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Our Most Awesomest Resource Ever

 

Many of you are very aware of our story. A few years ago, we lost our sweet Grace Evangeline in a very difficult car accident.

Since then, the tears shed and the lessons learned have been innumerable. However, as a husband and wife, we are doing our best to take the chunks of coal life throws our way and make diamonds of them.

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Posted in Family Matters


Less Than 40 Days Until Our Orlando Marriage Conference

 

 

Wow! Less than 40 days until our Orlando How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conference on Saturday, November 3rd, in sunny Orlando, FL.

Here are a few things you should know about our conferences:

  • Our conferences last 4 hours max.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Preparing for Battle on November 3rd in Orlando

 

 

Preparing for some awesome battle on November 3rd in Orlando, FL, at our Orlando How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conference. Here are a few reasons why I love our conferences:

  • I look at teaching on marriage as war.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Feminism Pleads Not Guilty

 

I keep hearing this phrase that feminism killed masculinity. That’s a bunch of crock. Feminism did not kill masculinity. It merely replaced it.

When men replaced the study with the man cave, they gave up the foundation of their manhood. The scriptures tell us that wisdom is better than strength,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Orlando How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conference

 

 

As of 10/15, 71 tickets remaining.

 
 

We are very excited about our upcoming Orlando How to Fight For Your Marriage – Marriage Conference on Saturday, November 3rd, 2018, in Orlando,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Marriage, the Front-Line of Evangelism

 

A few years back, I literally thought that I may be forsaking my call as a preacher of the gospel to give so much time toward the subject of marriage. However, as the years have unfolded, I have found that our team is on the front-line of evangelism.

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Posted in Marriage Advice, Marriage and the Church


Your Marriage May Be Getting Bad Advertisement

 

If you are not content before you wake up in the morning, you will not be content in your marriage.

Let’s face it. Many marriages get bad advertisement. The problem is not so much with compatibility as much as the health of the individuals involved.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


True or False? Happy Wife, Happy Life

 

Happy wife, happy life. You may be surprised at the number of men that loathe this little statement. However, I would like to pull a little rank on some and speak from my experience as to why this statement is so vital.

Hitting Home has been helping couples since 2002.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


45 Going On 17?

 

In working with couples, I am finding a number of adults between the ages of 35 and 45 that are reverting back to when they were about 17. This is often evidenced by any or all of the following:

 

  • Frivolous spending
  • A sudden change in their taste for music
  • A rise in consumption of sensual entertainment
  • A looseness in parenting
  • Reconnecting with old high school friends via social media especially of the opposite sex
  • Vicariously living through their children by their heavy encouragement to date and giddy conversations about their boyfriends / girlfriends
  • A constant type-casting of themselves as a victim especially of the marriage
  • A sudden change in dress and style of clothing

 

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Two Years Ago This Month, Everything Changed For My Family

 

Two years ago today, everything changed. We were riding down the road, minding our own business, and playing by the rules.

Two days before that, I spoke on marriage in Williamston, NC, and my little Grace sang He Looked Beyond My Faults And Saw My Need.

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Posted in Family Matters


Your Wife’s On and Off Switch

 

Generally speaking, when it comes to physical intimacy, women seem to have this on and off switch that can be in the on position one day, but in the off position on another. For men, it seems to be a little different as their switch tends to be stuck in the on position.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


North Georgia – Marriage / Singles Conference

 

 

This Event is Sold Out. A Waiting List is Available on the Registration Page.

 

We are very excited about our upcoming North Georgia How to Fight For Your Marriage – Marriage/Singles Conference on Friday,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Embrace The Struggle

 

One would think that with all of the information that we have at our fingertips, our society would be the most advanced society that ever lived as far wisdom is concerned. However, I believe we actually see a fulfillment of prophecy right before our eyes in that many are “ever learning,

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Posted in Uncategorized


Philadelphia Marriage Class – July 28th, 2018

 

 

Waiting List Available on Registration Page – Sold Out

 

On July 28th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Philadelphia, PA. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Marriage Problems Speak Volumes

 

At our last marriage conference in Missouri, I spent a good amount of time talking about the rage that is in the average person’s heart in our day. The reason for this is simple: the further away a society runs from the reality of the cross, the more rage they carry in their souls.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


After 25 Years Of Marriage – This Is What We Have Learned

 

 

This December, my wife and I will have been married for 25 years. I am more than thankful for the lessons we have learned along the way.

 

A Few Lessons We Have Learned

 

Though we are certainly not the Corn-flake couple,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Healthy Individuals Make Up A Healthy Marriage

 

It is one thing to have a bad problem. It is another to come up with a bad solution to that problem. Unfortunately, this is what is occurring as singles see marrieds struggle.

Many singles are developing a disdain for the institution of marriage while others are vowing to stay away from marriage altogether.

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Posted in Uncategorized


Dallas, TX How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conference, August 4th, 2018

 

 

Sold Out – Waiting List Available on the Registration Page

 
 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight For Your Marriage – Dallas Marriage Conference on Saturday, August 4th, 2018 in Dallas,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Have You Been There And Done That With God?

During the first session of our marriage conferences, we take the time to discuss the importance of the Father’s presence in each of our lives. In fact, I often say that without an eternal view of our lives and marriages, our advice simply serves as five smooth stones placed in the wrong sling of selfishness and humanism.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Does Your Marriage Suffer From Emotional Amnesia?

Does your marriage suffer from what I call emotional amnesia? That is, when a problem arises, do you or your spouse act as if you have never learned good conflict resolution skills? Do you forget about the emotional heart strings that have been tied throughout the years and give place to your raw emotions?

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Posted in Marriage Advice


This Is What It Looks Like

 

It seems that there is a thread that runs through much of my coaching, teaching, and writing as I teach individuals and couples about the ways of God in relation to marriage and relationships. This thread can be summed up in this little phrase: this is what it looks like.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Greatest Lesson I Have Learned After 16 Years Of Counseling

The longer I coach and counsel couples, the more I am convinced that the greatest need for spouses is to gaze upon Christ through His Word. (II Corinthians 3:18)

We all have a dividing line between our soul and our spirit (Hebrews 4:12), and I am finding that unless that dividing line is precisely hit with the presence of the Father (John 14:21-23),

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Way We Treat Our Wives Says A Lot About . . .

 

The way I treat my wife says a lot about my relationship with God. Far fetched? Let me use a little of the King James vernacular here in response: I trow not.

I John 4:20 teaches us that if we cannot love those that we see,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


What Is Your Relationship IQ?

Do problems in a marriage change the marriage or accentuate the Relationship IQ of the spouses involved? In many instances, I choose the latter.

Wisdom is the DNA of success. It is the canvas upon which the portrait of success is painted, and, to be very frank, this is why far too many marriages present such a bleak picture of marriage.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why We Are So Excited About Coming To Missouri In March


 

I have to be honest. I love our How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conferences, and I am especially excited about coming to Missouri in March, 2018. Here’s a few reasons why:

 

I am originally from the St.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


How To Stop Those Merry-Go-Round Conversations

Many couples call me because they are on a conversational merry-go-round and they do not know how to jump off.

Frankly, we have found in many cases there is one primary way to exit these tiresome discussions that seem to go no where, and it almost always involves the following: stop arguing with your spouse’s perception.

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Posted in Communication in Marriage


The Ugly Side of Marriage

Discontentment causes people to feel that their environment needs to change, when, in many cases (yet not all), the problem is not their environment, but the instability in their heart. (James 4:1-2)

Discontent spouses often feel they received the short end of the the stick in life, rushed into matrimony,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why I’m So Fired Up

I did some math the other day, and I realized that in 25 years I will be 70 years of age. That said, I guess it’s time to just go all out and attack the radical problems of our day with radical solutions.

Marriage is the axle to which every spoke in our society is connected.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Most Important Question For Your Marriage

I find that the problem with many is not so much that they fail to give the right answers as much as they tend to ask the wrong questions.

For many, instead of asking, “Should I leave my marriage?”, “Are we compatible?”, “Is there too much water under the bridge?”,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Charlotte, NC – Marriage Class, February 17th, 2018

 

 

This Event is Sold Out

 

On February 17th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Charlotte, North Carolina. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Our Recent Iowa Marriage Conference

What a great time we had in Le Mars, Iowa at our How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage & Parenting Conference in September. It was definitely an adventurous weekend that involved flight cancellations and a massive hurricane called Irma as well as a great marriage conference.

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Why Men Are Protesting

 

I am finding more and more men that are just plain frustrated, and their frustration appears to have some semblance of validity.

Quite simply, many men seem to be lining up in protest against what they feel is an uneven patch on the battle ground of relationships.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Missouri – How to Fight For Your Marriage – Marriage Conference, March 17th 2018


 

This event is Sold Out. A Waiting List is available on our registration page.

 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight For Your Marriage – Missouri Marriage Conference on Saturday,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Ocala, Florida Marriage Class – February 10th, 2018

 

As of February 2nd at 9:19 pm est, 2 Tickets Remaining

 

On February 10th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


You Only Live Forever

 

I often hear spouses in troubled marriages say things like, “You only live once. If I don’t jump ship now, how much time will I have to start all over and enjoy a good marriage.”

The problem, however, is that, if we are in Christ,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


What Happens To Men When Women Get Mad

A man may act defensive, inconsiderate, or non-nonchalant when his wife is upset, but I am not so convinced this is his initial reaction deep down inside.

Generally speaking, men are goal-oriented. In fact, I find that most men really do want to please their wives. However, when this goal goes unmet,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Start Living The Movies You Say You Love

 

Many seem to be willing to watch a movie, but few seem to know what it takes to live out a good movie script in their lives.

 

The Valiant Rescue

 

We have all seen the movies portraying that valiant rescue of the woman by the man.

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Posted in Issues Relating to Husbands


No Marriage Runs On Empty

 

Every marriage is like a well. Without a source outside of itself, it will fall short in producing that which it was designed to supply.

I am a pastor, director of Hitting Home, father of eight, boys varsity basketball coach, and an owner of another family business we started about seven years ago.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


How To Use Your Pain For Good

I always backed down in a discipleship or counseling session when someone said they were in pain. Mostly because I did not want to overstep my bounds as a person that was a fare stranger to this foe.

Most of you know our story by now. You are aware that pain entered our lives as a family about a year ago upon the passing of our sweet Grace.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Day I Became A Man

 

Manhood does not come by accident. In fact, I often say that the journey to manhood is not a pretty process. That is, it is a downright ugly path at times that requires almost more than our soft society is able to stomach.

All that being said,

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Posted in Issues Relating to Husbands


Why Fear Is Worse Than Greed

 

There are two emotions in life that cause hardships in our relationship with God, our spouses, and our children. Though one seems to get a pass on many an occasion, both are extremely destructive. These menaces are fear and greed.

If fear and greed were villains,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Marriage Class – McDonough, Georgia, October 21st, 2017

 

 

As of October 19th at 5:34 pm, 1 Ticket Remaining

 

On Saturday, October 21st, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in McDonough, Georgia. This class will be a smaller interactive class,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Great Marriage Or A Great Wife?

My wife and I could destroy one another if we wanted to. Yep, that’s exactly what I said. Even though I am a marriage coach, author of a marriage book, marriage speaker, and a pastor, we could easily focus on the past, nitpick our idiosyncrasies, and wake up each morning with a load of case files against the other.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


What To Do When An Emotional Storm Comes Through

I have been a Christian since the age of 17 and my flesh is no more saved today than the first day I came to Christ. Though it’s a little frustrating at times, it was also the admission of the apostle Paul when he said “in me (that is,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Marriage & Parenting Conference, September 9th, 2017, Le Mars, Iowa

 

 

As of September 4th at 10:53 am, 4 tickets remaining.

 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage and Parenting Conference in Le Mars, Iowa on Saturday,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Marriage Class – August 5th, 2017, Ocala, Florida


 

As of June 1st, Sold Out

 

On Saturday, August 5th, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Adulting? Really??

It was just a few months ago that I heard the word “adulting” for the first time. I have to be honest. I was a little taken aback with its mere existence. That is, the very presence of the word should speak volumes to us in that if we even need such a word,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Headship Looks A Lot Like Submission

 

In our out-of-balance society, we often have a very distorted view of the Biblical teaching on headship in marriage.

The scriptures teach that the man is the head of the wife. This is evident in Ephesians 5:23 where God says:

 

For the husband is the head of the wife,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Speaking All Day in Keystone Heights, Florida, May 21st, 2017

On May 21st, 2017, we have the honor of ministering at the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida. Dr. Force will be speaking during the morning and the evening service.

 

Morning Service

 

During the morning service at 10 am,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


The Emotionally Entitled Spouse

 

We are all well aware of financial entitlement, but have you ever considered that some have an issue with emotional entitlement? You may also not be aware that this sense of emotional entitlement can cause great difficulties in any marriage or premarriage relationship.

 

Where Does Entitlement Come From?

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Posted in Marriage Advice


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