The reason why some are unable to love, forgive, and take risk in a relationship is simple: they have too much at stake.
Love takes risk, but without the safety net and sense that God has our back and holds our future, many will be unable to sacrifice what they want for the needs of others.
Love never stands by itself. It is held up by the Source of Love, God. Without God, even our attempts at loving others will be like a boomerang. We will love, but only if it eventually comes back to us in the form of response and admiration.
A Distorted View
Many a spouse has a distorted view of how to fix their marriage. In their mind, the need is all about getting the other to love them the way they want. However, how many have considered that this essentially misses the mark? Is it possible that instead of fanning the flame of marriage, a higher and nobler spark is needed? Is it possible that other spouse really does feel stuck because they have exhausted all of their own capabilities to loving those around them?
Paul said that ‘Christ liveth in me”, and, to be frank, without the outside source of the Holy Spirit, my wife and I would be too guarded, less forgiving, and unable to jump toward each other because we would have none to catch us. Our marriage is not good because we are good. It is only good because God is good.
This is why we focus so much on working on your relationship with God before trying to solve all of your marriage problems in the first session of our marriage conferences and chapters one and two of our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With One Another. With God, indeed, all things are possible, even love.
Ordering Our Marriage Book
Our marriage book, How to Fight for Order our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With One Another, is available in paperback at our Online Resource Center. It is also available in Kindle format for an immediate download.