At our last marriage conference in Missouri, I spent a good amount of time talking about the rage that is in the average person’s heart in our day. The reason for this is simple: the further away a society runs from the reality of the cross, the more rage they carry in their souls.
There is a reason why societies that move away from the cross see an increase in violence, violent entertainment, and frustration as a whole. If we do not sense God’s favor applied to our hearts, then we carry the rage that Christ absorbed at the cross, and, unfortunately, what we carry inside has a way of seeping out.
You May Not Have Marriage Problems
Honestly, many of our readers do not have marriage problems. Their marriage issues are just a little evangelist revealing a greater issue. That is, there is a rage within one or both spouses that finds a way to attach itself in many an area. Their marriage is simply the easiest target. If the marriage did not exist, then that rage would find its way to attach itself to something else.
I often say that the problem in life is not so much that we supply the wrong answers as much as it is that we ask the wrong questions. It could be that, overall, you do not have marriage problems, as much as a need for your entire family to take a long look at the cross and realize that all the blame that you give out to one another is like a fire burning within. Your marriage simply serves as wood by which this fire is fueled. The problem, therefore, is not your marriage, but that fire within that God would love to satisfy.
Ephesians 4:32 – “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
– Dr. Force
What if the issue is that you want to fix the problems, but you really just don’t know how? When it seems like every thing that you do seems to make things worse…so you don’t want to do anything….which makes things worse….you feel like you are in a no win situation.. The pain that you feel in that situation makes you wonder just what are you doing?
Me an my husband have been married 6 yr this 18th.an for the last 3 yrs we have had rage wit each other to the point we agree about small things.we get at a point we blame,tear dwn an say evil mean things to each other.it has me being unforgiving wit him.we have separated as of yesterday.it has been so hurtful things done by my husband he has tore r stuff up we have been to jail for fighting an how we responded to each other is like we hate each other..ive been torned by him an all the things he was doing it was like we didn’t love each other.the last few months he wasn’t getting a job an he seemed lie he didn’t want to spend time together he want to look at other women I knew he was trying to talk to other women..an he was always accusing me of being wit other men..r sexual intimacy was so messed up as well..he was saved we both r an I had to constantly hear he say he is to b n control.it felt like he wanted to control wht all I did..