During our marriage conferences, I have a section where women almost violently start shaking their heads up and down in agreement with our content. I call the segment Speaking Womanese.
I have found by their own admission that most women would rather feel emotionally safe than anything else in the relationship.
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Many couples call me because they are on a conversational merry-go-round and they do not know how to jump off.
Frankly, we have found in many cases there is one primary way to exit these tiresome discussions that seem to go no where, and it almost always involves the following: stop arguing with your spouse’s perception.
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Though I loathe cliche’s concerning marriage, some phrases and expressions are overused for a reason, they are universally applicable.
To say communication is important in a marriage may be a cliche, but it is, nonetheless, an all-important subject. Here is a little encouragement as to why we should put such a high priority on communication in marriage.
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Few view themselves as an unloving spouse. This is usually because we tend to have what I call comparative holiness. That is, we tend to believe that we are good because we are better than our parents, siblings, neighbors, or how we acted at another time in our lives.
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Family gossip may be normal, but so are tornadoes, thunderstorms, and hurricanes. Here are a few points to consider as to why husbands and wives should learn to refrain from airing their dirty laundry before others.
The Reputation Factor
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Couples sometimes find themselves standing on the banks of very turbulent waters. Unfortunately, many lack the wisdom to build the bridges that would allow them to cross without drowning in their issues.
For this reason, I would like to discuss what I call bridge statements.
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What I am about to share is slightly difficult to explain in person let alone through a short article. However, at the risk of being misunderstood, I would like to share with you what I find is a very powerful communication tip for married couples.
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The Main Reason Why Some Couples Don’t Make It
Why do some couples make it while others divorce? Let me give you what I find to be the biggest reason why some couples don’t make it.
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The tragedy of couples having poor communication in a marriage is namely this:
What husbands and wives fail to communicate in a healthy, non-toxic way will be communicated in a way that makes both of them appear as if they are the other’s enemy.
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How to Talk About Problems in a Marriage Involving the In-laws and Blended Family Situations
The door to disunity opens from the inside. No mother-in-law, father-in-law, stepchild (I loathe that term), or outside member of the family has the power to destroy a marriage.
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If couples are going to effectively communicate, they must learn how to communicate three basic things in their conversations. If couples fail to communicate these three things, their conversations will typically fail. Here is a brief description of all three of these areas:
How They Feel
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I can’t take it anymore. As a pastor and a relationship coach that deals with conflict resolution on a daily basis, I have noticed that texting, emailing, and messaging people during an argument is horribly detrimental. This is why I often counsel and coach couples to stop texting and arguing.
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Many couples having issues fail to ever learn the art of fighting fair in a marriage. Below are a few tips to help you to excel at fighting fair in marriage.
Raise the Floor
Most of us know that we should set high goals and raise the standard for excellence in our marriages.
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In order to have healthy communication in marriage, you will need to learn how to remove yourself form the emotions of the moment. Here are some steps to learning how to do so.
Why Marriage Counseling Fails for Some
In spite of seeing a number of counselors,
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Are you Married to a Sarcastic Husband or Wife?
Married to a sarcastic husband or wife? Dr. Force believes that sarcasm has rarely served a useful purpose in the average home.
Here are a few more rules for talking with your spouse that should help you in your quest to talk in a safer manner with one another.
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The Power of Nonverbal Communication in a Marriage or Premarital Relationship
It has been said that ninety percent of communication is non-verbal communication. That being the case, we must be careful to watch not only what we are saying, but how we are saying it.
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Guidelines for How to Have a Discussion with Your Spouse
Even the vilest of enemies have learned to have a certain amount of respect for the rules of war. That being the case, couples in need should learn to follow a set of guidelines when learning how to have a discussion with one another.
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As a pastoral care counselor, I have worked with a good many of couples desiring new ways to work on communication in a relationship. Here is a major communication killer that I have noticed in almost every struggling marriage or relationship.
A Huge Communication Killer
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Cursing and Name Calling in Marriage
It is amazing how marriage has a way of making the most sophisticated of adults act like two children fighting on a playground. When this occurs, spouses often resort to name calling. If you are working at overcoming cursing and name calling in marriage,
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