It seems that there is a thread that runs through much of my coaching, teaching, and writing as I teach individuals and couples about the ways of God in relation to marriage and relationships. This thread can be summed up in this little phrase: this is what it looks like.
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The longer I coach and counsel couples, the more I am convinced that the greatest need for spouses is to gaze upon Christ through His Word. (II Corinthians 3:18)
We all have a dividing line between our soul and our spirit (Hebrews 4:12), and I am finding that unless that dividing line is precisely hit with the presence of the Father (John 14:21-23),
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The way I treat my wife says a lot about my relationship with God. Far fetched? Let me use a little of the King James vernacular here in response: I trow not.
I John 4:20 teaches us that if we cannot love those that we see,
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Do problems in a marriage change the marriage or accentuate the Relationship IQ of the spouses involved? In many instances, I choose the latter.
Wisdom is the DNA of success. It is the canvas upon which the portrait of success is painted, and, to be very frank, this is why far too many marriages present such a bleak picture of marriage.
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I have to be honest. I love our How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conferences, and I am especially excited about coming to Missouri in March, 2018. Here’s a few reasons why:
I am originally from the St.…
Many couples call me because they are on a conversational merry-go-round and they do not know how to jump off.
Frankly, we have found in many cases there is one primary way to exit these tiresome discussions that seem to go no where, and it almost always involves the following: stop arguing with your spouse’s perception.
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Discontentment causes people to feel that their environment needs to change, when, in many cases (yet not all), the problem is not their environment, but the instability in their heart. (James 4:1-2)
Discontent spouses often feel they received the short end of the the stick in life, rushed into matrimony,
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I did some math the other day, and I realized that in 25 years I will be 70 years of age. That said, I guess it’s time to just go all out and attack the radical problems of our day with radical solutions.
Marriage is the axle to which every spoke in our society is connected.
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I find that the problem with many is not so much that they fail to give the right answers as much as they tend to ask the wrong questions.
For many, instead of asking, “Should I leave my marriage?”, “Are we compatible?”, “Is there too much water under the bridge?”,
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On February 17th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Charlotte, North Carolina. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.
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What a great time we had in Le Mars, Iowa at our How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage & Parenting Conference in September. It was definitely an adventurous weekend that involved flight cancellations and a massive hurricane called Irma as well as a great marriage conference.
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I am finding more and more men that are just plain frustrated, and their frustration appears to have some semblance of validity.
Quite simply, many men seem to be lining up in protest against what they feel is an uneven patch on the battle ground of relationships.
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This event is Sold Out. A Waiting List is available on our registration page.
We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight For Your Marriage – Missouri Marriage Conference on Saturday,
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As of February 2nd at 9:19 pm est, 2 Tickets Remaining
On February 10th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.
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I often hear spouses in troubled marriages say things like, “You only live once. If I don’t jump ship now, how much time will I have to start all over and enjoy a good marriage.”
The problem, however, is that, if we are in Christ,
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A man may act defensive, inconsiderate, or non-nonchalant when his wife is upset, but I am not so convinced this is his initial reaction deep down inside.
Generally speaking, men are goal-oriented. In fact, I find that most men really do want to please their wives. However, when this goal goes unmet,
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Many seem to be willing to watch a movie, but few seem to know what it takes to live out a good movie script in their lives.
The Valiant Rescue
We have all seen the movies portraying that valiant rescue of the woman by the man.
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Every marriage is like a well. Without a source outside of itself, it will fall short in producing that which it was designed to supply.
I am a pastor, director of Hitting Home, father of eight, boys varsity basketball coach, and an owner of another family business we started about seven years ago.
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I always backed down in a discipleship or counseling session when someone said they were in pain. Mostly because I did not want to overstep my bounds as a person that was a fare stranger to this foe.
Most of you know our story by now. You are aware that pain entered our lives as a family about a year ago upon the passing of our sweet Grace.
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Manhood does not come by accident. In fact, I often say that the journey to manhood is not a pretty process. That is, it is a downright ugly path at times that requires almost more than our soft society is able to stomach.
All that being said,
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There are two emotions in life that cause hardships in our relationship with God, our spouses, and our children. Though one seems to get a pass on many an occasion, both are extremely destructive. These menaces are fear and greed.
If fear and greed were villains,
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As of October 19th at 5:34 pm, 1 Ticket Remaining
On Saturday, October 21st, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in McDonough, Georgia. This class will be a smaller interactive class,
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My wife and I could destroy one another if we wanted to. Yep, that’s exactly what I said. Even though I am a marriage coach, author of a marriage book, marriage speaker, and a pastor, we could easily focus on the past, nitpick our idiosyncrasies, and wake up each morning with a load of case files against the other.
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I have been a Christian since the age of 17 and my flesh is no more saved today than the first day I came to Christ. Though it’s a little frustrating at times, it was also the admission of the apostle Paul when he said “in me (that is,
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As of September 4th at 10:53 am, 4 tickets remaining.
We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage and Parenting Conference in Le Mars, Iowa on Saturday,
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As of June 1st, Sold Out
On Saturday, August 5th, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class,
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It was just a few months ago that I heard the word “adulting” for the first time. I have to be honest. I was a little taken aback with its mere existence. That is, the very presence of the word should speak volumes to us in that if we even need such a word,
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In our out-of-balance society, we often have a very distorted view of the Biblical teaching on headship in marriage.
The scriptures teach that the man is the head of the wife. This is evident in Ephesians 5:23 where God says:
“For the husband is the head of the wife,
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On May 21st, 2017, we have the honor of ministering at the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida. Dr. Force will be speaking during the morning and the evening service.
Morning Service
During the morning service at 10 am,
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We are all well aware of financial entitlement, but have you ever considered that some have an issue with emotional entitlement? You may also not be aware that this sense of emotional entitlement can cause great difficulties in any marriage or premarriage relationship.
Where Does Entitlement Come From?…
How many options are on the table when you have a disagreement with your spouse? That is, are they able to disagree or refrain from giving you what you desire without you losing your cool, getting huffy, or pouting? If not, then there is a good possibility that you are controlling your spouse through your emotions.
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Rachel and I really enjoyed being at the Father’s House in Columbus, Ohio this past weekend. This was my fourth time speaking at this growing church, and I would have to say that every time we come it seems like even more of an enjoyable time.
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Life is all about taking the chunks of coal that we find and turning them into diamonds. To be honest, we have two choices in life: complain about the coal or turn it into something better.
What the enemy means for our destruction is often the very platform that God intends to use for our blessing.
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We were very blessed to be a part of the Florida Shindig – 2017 this last week. A shout out to Butch Oxendine and his family for planning such an encouraging event.
50 Families From 19 States
You may be asking yourself,
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We are excited to be returning to the Father’s House International in Columbus, Ohio from February 24th-26th, 2017 for a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage / Singles Conference. Below are a few helpful details about this event.
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It is very interesting to see the type of statements and thoughts that pass as normal and acceptable thinking that are not only unbiblical, but, if I may, absolutely absurd. One of those thoughts is often voiced in any of the following ways:
I am looking for someone that won’t try to change me.
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I can secure the finest black powder and the best cannon balls, but if the angle of the cannon is off, then I should never expect to hit my target.
Why is it that a number of spouses have made what they feel are all the right changes,
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For the first time in my life, I believe I can honestly say, “I feel your pain.”
Many of our readers are already aware that this last year we lost our 12 year old daughter, Grace Evangeline, in an automobile accident. Though we have been surrounded by His Presence and care over the last 7 months,
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We were very blessed during our recent road trip to Wisconsin, Indiana, and then back to Florida for a very wonderful marriage conference. The trip featured:
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Everyone wants to know what to do in order to move forward in their relationships, but few seem to realize that even the best attempts at doing something different still miss the mark.
The ultimate goal in solving marriage issues or refining a pre marriage relationship should never be to do more as much as it should be to be what God would have you to be.
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You may think that you are just an impatient spouse. However, it could be that impatience is only a secondary issue. Your real problem may lie in other areas.
A Futile Approach
Many feel that the answer for their marriage problems is to just work harder at showing more patience.
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There is no fool-proof approach to forgiving your spouse. That is, to move forward in any relationship, risk is always going to be a factor.
Many seem to have the notion that once they feel 100% safe that they will take the risk necessary to open their hearts once again.
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Last week, we were coming back from ministering at a family conference in Wisconsin and I met a young man that was soon to be married. In fact, he was a young Christian man that is about three weeks away from marriage.
After the meal,
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Some women learn from an early age that though they may not be able to overpower the men in their lives, they can use emotional manipulation as a wrestling move of sorts to get their way. As a father of seven with four girls, I have seen this first hand.
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You may not know where Moores Hill, Indiana is located. Neither do we, but we are headed there for a Marriage Emphasis Night on Tuesday, September 13th at 7 pm.90 Minutes that Could Save Your MarriageThe event in Moores Hill, IN will last about 90 minutes. During the event, Dr.
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Faith in God is obeying Him and leaving all the consequences to Him. This is why Proverbs 3:6 teaches:
“In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
Our primary concern is never to be a specific result as much as our obedience to our Heavenly Father.
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During the last session of our marriage conferences, we will often have a question and answer time. It is during these times that I will often receive questions that indicate something interesting about a few of our hearers.
Many times, I feel that some in our audience feel that we have a good marriage because we rarely irritate one another.
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If a man only works at providing an atmosphere of love and safety in his marriage, he will fall short of fulfilling his role as a husband. Though love and safety are vital, a man also needs to add a little danger to the mix in order to complete the romantic puzzle.
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We are very excited about our Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With One Another Marriage Conference at One Life Fellowship in Ocala, Florida on September 23rd and 24th, 2016.
General Details:
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