We are looking forward to being a part of the Eau Claire Gospel Center’s Family Conference from September 16th-18th, 2016. Below are a few details about the event. Should be a great time.
Dates:
Friday, September 16th thru Sunday,
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Once Her Spirit is Wounded . . .
It was a hard lesson to learn as a young man, but once my wife’s spirit was wounded, all the words and logic in the world would fail in making things better in the immediate. Only time, action, and a genuine change in my attitude would prove to help.
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Because Someone Has to Say It
I am increasingly mesmerized at the amount of Christians that have a light view of the marriage covenant. Instead of till death do them part, it’s as if they vowed, “as long as I am happy”, “till we grow weary of one another”, or “as long as my expectations are met”.
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Are You a Conditional Lover?
The tendency to love conditionally seems to run through our bloodstream. I see this as I pastor, counsel, deal with children, conduct business, and manage my own emotions.
Let’s face it, we are conditional lovers by nature. Maybe this is why God described mankind in the following way in Romans 3:17:
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It’s Hard to Describe
On June 1st, our little community in Ocala, Florida came together with heavy hearts to remember our Grace Evangeline. We were also all in need of a little clarity, healing, and the peace of God.
I feel the Lord answered our prayers in an almost unexplainable way in that we left the memorial service with a natural sense of sorrow yet a sense that God had strangely moved in our hearts to draw us closer through the passing of our sweet Grace.
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The Last 10 Days of Our Lives
We have always viewed our audience as an extension of our family, especially the family of God.
Over the last 10 days, we have experienced a very sad chapter of our lives as we have lost our little Grace Evangeline. In the picture to the right she is the little girl in the red bow.
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Marriage Emphasis Night, Williamston, NC, May 18th, 2016
We are excited to be having a Marriage Emphasis Night at Fellowship Baptist Church in Williamston, NC on Wednesday, May 18th at 7:30 pm.
Topics
Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples a Biblical and refreshing approach to strengthening their marriage.
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I Can’t Take It Anymore
It is more than common for men to read an excerpt from my marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With One Another, or one of our blog posts and reply with statements as such:
“Just remember,
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Where Men Blow It
A woman is often asking her husband for the same treatment he wants from Christ. However, men sometimes prove to be hypocritical in that they expect from Christ what they are unwilling to provide for their wives.
Here are a few areas where I find that men show this subtle form of hypocrisy:
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A Heart Sick Nation
As Americans, we are not a very settled people. In fact, we are probably the most depressed and dissatisfied generation that America has ever produced.
Here are a few reasons why we seem to have almost an epidemic on our hands of people that are heart sick with feelings of anxiousness,
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How Dysfunctional People Make You Feel Dysfunctional
Dysfunctional people have a way of turning the tables on others. That is, they find a way to make those around them feel like they are the problem, when, in reality, their turbulent heart is the source of turbulence in their lives. (James 4:-1-2)
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Just How Important is Communication in a Marriage
Though I loathe cliche’s concerning marriage, some phrases and expressions are overused for a reason, they are universally applicable.
To say communication is important in a marriage may be a cliche, but it is, nonetheless, an all-important subject. Here is a little encouragement as to why we should put such a high priority on communication in marriage.
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Great Lovers or Great Fighters?
My wife and I are not so much great lovers, but good fighters. However, our fight is not with one another as much as it is against the evils of society and our world.
If a couple’s only goals involve securing a good retirement, purchasing things, mere survival,
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How Our Florida Marriage Conference Can Help Your Marriage
As of 3/9 at 12:47 pm, 4 Tickets Left
I Have More Faith Than You Do
First off, I want you to know that though we charge for our marriage conferences, we barely break even. So, what I am about to say is not a way to get you to buy a ticket.
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How the Bible Helps My Marriage
The older I get and the longer I teach the Bible, the bolder I become in teaching that the Bible is the best and only standard for couples to follow. Here is a short-list of reasons why I believe this to be the case.
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Obey Your Way Through Your Marriage Problems
This last Sunday, I taught out of the book of Kings and Chronicles. The entire sermon was based on one principle: When Israel’s kings obeyed God, they were blessed by God. When they walked in disobedience to God, their tenures were plagued with treachery and trouble.
The application to our families was simple: though there are many possible steps and approaches to solving our issues,
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Christian Marriage Conference – March 19th-20th, Poland / Youngstown, Ohio
Christian Marriage Conference – March 19th-20th, 2016 – Poland/Youngstown, Ohio
We are looking forward to coming to the Poland/Youngstown, Ohio area on March 19th-20th to minister at their Christian Marriage Conference and Marriage Emphasis Sunday.
To register or to find out more details about the event,
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Christian Marriage Conference – March, 12th, 2016, Ocala, Florida
Christian Marriage Conference in Ocala, Florida
Hitting Home Ministries as well as Crossroads Bible Church in Ocala, Florida, is bringing to you a Christian marriage conference on March 12, 2016.
For details, please visit the web site for Crossroads Church in Ocala,
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New Year, New Approach to Marriage
Ecclesiastes 10:10 tells us that sharpening an ax is a much better way to improve the cutting process than simply swinging a little harder.
In the same way, many of you have worked ever so hard in the last year on your marriage only to come up a little shorter than a year ago.
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True Love Assumes the Best
Few view themselves as an unloving spouse. This is usually because we tend to have what I call comparative holiness. That is, we tend to believe that we are good because we are better than our parents, siblings, neighbors, or how we acted at another time in our lives.
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Some Things Marriage Counselors Are Afraid to Say
There are some things that just need to be said from time to time but those that work with couples may be afraid to say it. Here are a few points that are difficult to articulate in our current culture yet still need to be said. In fact,
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The Mature or Not So Mature Spouse
Most of my coaching involves encouraging people to do what their parents should have taught them growing up. Whether the need is to exhibit more self control, show contentment, be thankful, or to love unconditionally, I find that the greatest ailment plaguing our society is that of immaturity.
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Marriage Evangelism – A Copy for You and a Friend in Need
Marriage Evangelism
I have been told that 3 out of 4 couples that visit church for the first time make that decision because they are having problems in their marriage. That said, this is one of the reasons why I say that all of our counseling and coaching on marriage falls underneath two categories: evangelism or discipleship.
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How to Get Along with Family During the Holidays
Someone once said the reason why God gives us friends is because we cannot pick our family. Though humorous, all humor has an element of truth.
What is a person to do when the only thing they have in common with their family is DNA?
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Who’s in Charge of Your Marriage?
When men fail to love their wives because of what they perceive to be a lack of responsiveness, they are allowing themselves to be controlled by the behavior of their wives. In fact, I find that these two things are occurring when this transpires:
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When You are the Only One Working on the Marriage
I often receive the question, “Is there hope for my marriage even if I am the only one working on the marriage?” Let me take a few moments to provide some help for those that feel they are a lone ranger of sorts in their marriage.
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Getting Back to the Family Table
The more I counsel and coach married couples and families the more I find out that many families have pushed away from the family dinner table. However, they have not done this for health purposes as much as for the unhealthy purpose of busyness.
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How to Survive a Loveless Marriage
How to Survive in a Loveless Marriage
It seems to be common to hear people tell me that they feel they are in a loveless marriage. Some wonder how long their time of waiting will last while others feel they are often at their breaking point.
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Couples Devotional
Our marriage book is also designed for use as a couples devotional book. Here are a few key points that you should know about using our book as a devotional book in your marriage.
Presents A Forward-Focused Look At Strengthening Your Marriage
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Given Up on Your Marriage?
What do you say to a spouse or a couple that has lost all desire for their marriage? For spouses or couples in such a state, I often have a rather unique question that I ask.
The Question
Instead of asking,
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Family Gossip And How It Affects A Marriage
Family gossip may be normal, but so are tornadoes, thunderstorms, and hurricanes. Here are a few points to consider as to why husbands and wives should learn to refrain from airing their dirty laundry before others.
The Reputation Factor
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The Ultimate Answer for Marriage Problems
I have never seen two truly spiritually healthy people with a bad marriage. What can we learn from this? What does this say about the ultimate answer for our marriage problems today? Below are a few thoughts that should help us in this matter.
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Learning Day – Sapneil Tutoring, Miami, Florida
Sapneil Tutoring – Learning Day
Thank you to Sapneil Tutoring for inviting us to be a part of their Learning Day on September 19, 2015 from 10 am to 1 pm.
Stress Management
We are honored to be making a webinar appearance for Sapneil Tutoring’s Learning Day.
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Bridge Statements and Why Every Marriage Needs Them
Couples sometimes find themselves standing on the banks of very turbulent waters. Unfortunately, many lack the wisdom to build the bridges that would allow them to cross without drowning in their issues.
For this reason, I would like to discuss what I call bridge statements.
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Marriage and Money, Help for Christian Couples
Money and Marriage
There are three things couples argue about the most: money, physical intimacy, and children. Though there are other matters that sometimes come into play, these three areas seem to come up the most when couples air their dirty laundry to me.
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The Stonewalling Spouse and How it Hurts a Marriage
Stonewalling – How it Hurts a Marriage
Whether you are on the giving or the receiving end of stonewalling, it is, nonetheless, harmful to a relationship. Let me share with you a few thoughts about what stonewalling is and how to better deal with it.
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How Old Do You Act In Your Marriage?
When conflict arises between you and your spouse, how old do you act?
Confession
Early in marriage, I was on a 10 year old level when conflict came my way. As most ten year olds do, I would get emotional,
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5 Week Marriage Class – Ocala, FL 2015, Christian
5 Week Marriage Class in Ocala, FL
As of 3:42 pm on Tuesday, September 22nd, Only 2 spots left for our Marriage Class – Preregistration is required
We are looking forward to having a 5-week marriage class in Ocala,
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How To Reach A Hard-Hearted Spouse
When dealing with difficult marital situations, I often say that it is good to remember that we are not able to do more than God. However, I hope to give a little advice in this article to those trying ever so hard to reach that hard-hearted spouse.
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What is a Christian Marriage?
Do you have a Christian marriage? Have questions such as, “What is a Christian marriage?” Let’s take a look at what really makes a Christian marriage.
A Little Test
A few years ago, if I were to give a test to see how Christian a Christian marriage is,
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Our #1 Communication Tip For Couples
What I am about to share is slightly difficult to explain in person let alone through a short article. However, at the risk of being misunderstood, I would like to share with you what I find is a very powerful communication tip for married couples.
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Why Men Are Mad
I am finding an increasing amount of men that are just plain mad. They are mad about their marriage, the treatment they receive from their wives, and what they view to be an uneven playing field when it comes to marriage.
Below are few reasons why I believe this to be occurring.
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Our Trip to Faith Baptist Church – Belleville, IL
Our Trip to Belleville, Illinois – Faith Baptist Church
It was an honor to speak at the Faith Baptist Church in Belleville, IL this last Sunday. I am truly thankful for this ministry as this is the place God used for my family to come to Christ.
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Why Some Couples Don’t Make It, James 1:22-25
The Main Reason Why Some Couples Don’t Make It
Why do some couples make it while others divorce? Let me give you what I find to be the biggest reason why some couples don’t make it.
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How Can a Husband Honor His Wife
I Peter 3:7 teaches that husbands are to honor their wives. What does this mean? How can a husband put this into practice? What are some practical ways that a husband can honor his wife? Here are a few pointers from Dr. Raymond Force, author of How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another.
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The Unhappy Christian Marriage
Over the years, I have met a number of people that name the name of Christ yet tell me that they feel they have an unhappy Christian marriage. Let me offer a few possibilities as to why this may occur from time to time.
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Are You a Reactionary Spouse?
Are You a Reactionary Spouse?
How do you handle your marriage or pre marriage problems? Are you simply reactionary or are you what I call a life-long learner?
The Negative Consequences of Being Reactionary
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Why the Biblical Model for Marriage is the Best Model?
Why the Biblical Model for Marriage is the Best Model
Why is the Biblical model for marriage the best model? Why are God’s teachings on the husband and wife relationship far superior to those that would contradict His Word? Here are a few points to consider that should strengthen our faith in the Bible.
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What Does it Mean for the Wife to Submit to Her Husband?
The last few weeks at our church, I have been teaching from Titus 2, Ephesians 5:22-24, and Colossians 3:18-19. These verses teach the following:
Ephesians 5:22-24
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife,
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Speaking at Faith Baptist Church, Belleville, IL, July 19th, 2015
Speaking at Faith Baptist Church – July 19th, 2015
Looking forward to speaking at Faith Baptist Church in Belleville, IL this July 19th, 2015.
I will be speaking during the Sunday school hour as well as the morning service at 11 am.
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