I do not find that women manage relationships very well. Though there are a number of reasons why this may be the case, I find that if a woman finds herself in a scenario where she is managing a man, a pre marriage relationship, or a marriage,
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Blog Archives
The 6 Paradoxes of Marriage for Men
Marriage presents a number of interesting paradoxes for men, and, their ability to maneuver through these paradoxes and come out smiling will, many times, determine the success of their marriage.
Though I certainly am not one to put 100 percent of the responsibility on the man,
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Women Who Feel Disconnected from Their Husbands, Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley
Help for Women Feeling Disconnected from their Husbands
We are honored to be able to have Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley as one of our contributors concerning women’s issues. Dr. Carol is better known as Doctor Doctor as she is both a licensed medical Doctor and a Doctor of Ministry.
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Rules for the New Millennium
Rules for Traversing Through the New Millennium
If you haven’t noticed, life has changed a lot over the last 20 years. And, by a lot, I mean a lot, like really . . . a lot.
As we flex with all of these new changes,
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The Strongest Connection Points for Couples
Colossians 3:13-19 is a great passage of scripture dealing with marriage as well as other areas. Though I have written about verses 18 and 19 in other articles, I would like to convey an all-important lesson from verse 14 as it relates to marriage.
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How to Have a Happy Marriage
Help on How to Have a Happy Marriage
My wife and I do not have a happy marriage because we have one another. We have a great marriage because we are happy and fulfilled before we even see one another. The love and happiness we share is out of the overflow of what God is already doing in our lives.
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What Does It Mean For The Husband To Be The Head Of The Home?
There is probably not a more in-politically correct teaching in the Bible than that of Ephesians 5:22-25. However, much of the consternation surrounding teachings as such flow from a misunderstanding of God’s view on the husband being the head of the house. Let’s take a look at what it means for the husband to be the head of the house or the family.
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Online Marriage Seminar, Christian
On Air Marriage Conference / Online Marriage Seminar
We are happy to be working with ICBS Radio and Jran Studios to participate in their June, 2015 On Air / Online Marriage Seminar Conference.
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Signs of a Dysfunctional Marriage or Pre Marriage Relationship
Here are a few signs of a dysfunctional marriage or pre marriage relationship that should help you to assess the state of your relationship with your spouse or significant other.
Dysfunctional Behavior is No Longer Shocking
Dysfunctional marriages and relationships have a way of desensitizing each participant to its negative aspects.
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What to do When Children are Causing Marriage Problems
Feeling as if Your Children are Causing Marriage Problems?
There are three things couples argue about the most; money, sex, and children. Here is more Christian-based help for those feeling that their children are causing marriage problems.
Your Children are Not the Issue
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Signs of a Controlling Spouse, Romans 12:18
A Few Signs of a Controlling Spouse
Are you a controlling spouse? Are you possibly married to a controlling spouse? Here are a few signs of a controlling signs that should help you to understand if you are, indeed, married to a controlling spouse or guilty of such behavior.
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Would God Want Me to Stay in a Bad Marriage?
Of course, I will not be able to solve every marriage problem with this article, but I hope to be able to shed a little more light on the matter for those wondering, “Would God want me to stay in a bad marriage?”
Some Really Bad Doctrine
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How to Get My Husband to be a Spiritual Leader
The title alone to this post is slightly self-contradicting. In a facetious way, we could title the post, “How to lead my husband into being a better leader.” However, we will not go that route. I will stick with the title, “How to get my husband to be a spiritual leader.
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Self Worth or Christ Worth – Which Should it Be?
Self-Worth or Christ Worth
Though I use the word self-worth all the time, I am not so sure that we need more self-worth as much as we need Christ-worth.
Here is an excerpt from chapter 9 of our anger book, Angry Without a Cause,
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Is it Always the Man’s Fault in a Marriage?
I often receive comments from men that ask, “Is it always the man’s fault in a marriage?”, “Why is it always the husbands fault?”, “Why do books always seem to put the blame on the man?”, or, better yet, “Why are you always blaming the man?”
By the way,
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Why Forgiveness Is So Hard
There are a number of reasons as to why forgiveness is hard, especially when it comes to marriage. Here are five reasons that should help to shed a little more light on why we tend to struggle with forgiveness.
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How to be a Better Husband or Wife
Advice on How to be a Better Husband or Wife
People often come to me to learn how to be a better husband or wife. During that process, they will either ask questions or make statements as such:
“How can I be a better husband or wife?”
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Joy is Attractive
There seems to be a growing epidemic of Christian wives that are striving so hard to meet a Christian standard in their home that they fail to meet one of the most important standards of all, joy.
Romans 14:17 teaches:
“For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink;
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Why Marriage is Sometimes Hard
I am a firm believer that if you let life happen, life has a way of running you over. In fact, Matthew Henry said, “The way of sin is always downhill.” I like to put it like this:
There is no such position as neutral in the Christan life because sin and selfishness are like gravity.
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Marriage Conference in Nebraska
Our Marriage Conference in Nebraska
Words cannot express the wonderful time we had with the church family of First Baptist Church in Plattsmouth, Nebraska this last weekend. We were truly blessed by the spirit of receptivity and the spiritual energy that is flowing through this church.
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Simplified Marriage Counseling
The average couple that comes to me for marriage help knows more counseling terms than I do. As they describe their plight, they often relate their abandonment issues, the narcissistic tendencies of their spouse, and their list of diagnoses from other counselors.
My training is not in the area of psychology or therapy.
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Will the Wife Always be Happy if Her Husband Loves Her?
There is a popular teaching in the body of Christ today dealing with marriage that is sometimes misused or over generalized. It goes something like this:
If a husband will love his wife as Christ loved the church, then the woman will either be happy or willing to return that love and affection.
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How to Plan a Christian Marriage Retreat – Conference
Some Help on How to Plan a Christian Marriage Retreat
Having planned and/or spoken at a number of Christian marriage conferences, I have learned a few lessons along the way. Here are just a few tips or steps on how to plan a Christian marriage retreat or conference:
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A Great Marriage Retreat in Central Florida
A Great Time in Central Florida
It was a pleasure speaking at the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida this past Sunday evening as we wrapped up a 3-day Christian marriage event.
A Special Thanks
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How to Have a Peaceful Marriage
James 4:1-2 shows us that people war without as a result of a lack of peace within, and I have found that this is especially true in marriage.
James 4:1-2
James 4:1-2 says:
“From whence come wars and fightings among you?
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Why Couples Should Stop Playing the Blame Game
Why Nobody Wins when Couples Play the Blame Game
Nobody wins when couples play the blame game, except, of course, for divorce attorneys. Let me give you a few reasons as to why couples should stop playing the blame game.
It has Never Worked
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A Wonderful Marriage Conference Last Weekend
A Wonderful Weekend in Ohio
I was very honored to be able to speak at the 2015 Father’s House Singles and Marriage Conference in Columbus, Ohio this past weekend. Once again, I was very blessed to be able to teach couples How to Fight for their Marriage Without Fighting with One Another using a Biblical methods.
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Upcoming Christian Marriage Conferences, Events Page
Our New Upcoming Events Page
We are excited about our upcoming Christian marriage conferences and events. In fact, we have a new upcoming events page that you may want to check out.
Please Verify
Some of you have told me that you are going to travel by way of plane or a long car ride to some of our events.
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It’s Great to Hear From You about our Marriage Book
It’s Great to Hear from You
It has been a blessing hearing your take on our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another. After three years of writing, it is always interesting listening to your responses.
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How to do Marriage Counseling, Christian, Proverbs 20:5
How to do Christian marriage counseling
The longer I study the Bible, the more mesmerized I become at the wisdom it contains. Though I have read the Bible over and over again, I still find incredible truths that cause me to say, “I never considered that before.”
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Scriptures on Sex, Physical Intimacy
Scriptures on Sex
Because physical intimacy or sex is the strongest earthly passion that God has given mankind, the Bible certainly deals with the subject. Here are a few scriptures on sex or physical intimacy that give us God’s perspective on sex.
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Christian Marriage Conference, Florida, March 13th-15th, 2015
Christian Marriage Conference Keystone Heights, Florida
We are very honored to have been invited to the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida to conduct a Christian marriage conference from March 13th to March 15th, 2015.
Topic and Focus
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The Tragedy of Poor Communication in a Marriage
The tragedy of couples having poor communication in a marriage is namely this:
What husbands and wives fail to communicate in a healthy, non-toxic way will be communicated in a way that makes both of them appear as if they are the other’s enemy.
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How the Past Can Haunt Your Marriage
Our new marriage book presents a Biblical yet a refreshing approach to strengthening your marriage. I say refreshing because I have found that going back into the past and trying to find resolution on every issue that has ever plagued your marriage is almost always a recipe for disaster.
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Normal Marriage, What is it?
You probably have more of a Normal Marriage than you think
Being someone that has counseled and coached couples from all different walks of life, I have come to the conclusion that most couples struggle with basically the same issues. That is, you may be surprised to find out that you have more of a normal marriage than you think.
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Living Together Before Marriage is Not Just Bad, but Bad for You, Hebrews 13:4
Why Living Together is Not Just Bad, but Bad for You
It seems that mankind has always thought he needs to learn what is good for him by trial and error. The tragedy of it all is that God gave us a manual so that we do not have to learn by experience,
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Stupid Phrases in Sports that Need to be Tossed!
Stupid Phrases in Sports that Need to be Tossed!
Being a basketball coach, I have come to view sports much differently than the average fan. In my opinion, there are a vast amount of ridiculous statements made about sports that have become widely accepted as very reasonable statements.
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Scriptures on Divorce
Scriptures on Divorce
There are a number of scriptures on divorce in the Bible. However, it is not because God condones divorce as much as He understands the reality of divorce.
God Despises Divorce
First off,
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Columbus, OH, February, 2015, Christian Marriage Conference / Retreat
Christian Marriage Conference – Columbus, OH, February 21-22, 2015
Looking forward to our upcoming Christian marriage conference at the Father’s House in Columbus, Ohio from Saturday, February the 21st – 22nd, 2015.
Location
The location of the church is as follows:
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Husband is Not a Christian
What is a woman to do if her husband is not a Christian? Mark it down, what comes natural to her will probably be the last thing that planeshe needs to do. This is why a Biblical approach will be necessary.
What Comes Natural
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How to talk about Problems in a Marriage, Blended-Family, In-laws, Ex
How to Talk About Problems in a Marriage Involving the In-laws and Blended Family Situations
The door to disunity opens from the inside. No mother-in-law, father-in-law, stepchild (I loathe that term), or outside member of the family has the power to destroy a marriage.
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A Little Perspective
A few years ago, I received a phone call from a church that wanted to host one of our marriage events on a Friday evening. After solidifying a date, we were blessed to minister to a small group of about 30 or so out in the middle of nowhere.
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How to Improve Your Marriage
As you consider ways to improve your marriage, you should understand that marriages do not improve by themselves. In fact, it takes an amazing amount of emotional and spiritual elbow grease to keep a marriage on track.
A Downhill Slide
I am a firm believer that if you let life happen,
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Why I Spend Less on Christmas and On Birthdays for My Children
I am a firm believer that toys are marketed more for parents and grandparents than little children. I say this because the average toy goes against the grain of what makes children have what I would call real fun.
My Qualifications
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Our First Bulk Orders, Marriage Book
Our First Bulk Orders for our Marriage Book
It is such a blessing after three years of hard work to be shipping out our first set of bulk orders of our Christian marriage books, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another.
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What is Forgiveness?
What is forgiveness? Here’s a few thoughts on forgiveness that have been going through my mind as of late. I trust it helps to shed a little more light on the subject from a Biblical perspective.
Forgiveness Is
Quite simply,
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Scriptures on Being a Good Husband
Scriptures on Being a Good Husband
Believe it or not, but there are not an amazing amount of scriptures on being a good husband in particular. But, when God does deal with husbands, He certainly hits the proverbial nail on the head.
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Spouse Will Not End an Affair
What to do When a Spouse will Not End an Affair
What is a husband or wife to do when their spouse will not end an affair? In my experience as a pastoral care counselor and a life coach, I have seen a variety of reactions.
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Our Marriage Book Has Finally Arrived
Marriage Book Arrival
Yesterday, we were blessed to see the arrival of our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another. This has been a long time coming as I have been diligently working on it for over three years.
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Have I Forgiven My Spouse?
Have I Forgiven My Spouse
What is forgiveness? How does one measure forgiveness? How can a spouse know if they have forgiven their mate or not? How does the person asking, “Have I forgiven my spouse?” truly know if they are a forgiving spouse?
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