Biblical Counseling – How to Save Your Marriage
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4 Ways to Help Save Your Marriage
Humble Your Heart before Pointing Fingers at Your Spouse
I have had the pleasure of helping many couples through marital strife. I would have to say that the couples that make great strides in saving their marriage have one key ingredient: they work on themselves instead of blaming the other person.
1 Peter 5:6 says:
“Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:”
Though the scriptures does not guarantee that your changed behavior will cause your spouse to change, it does tell us that God will reward those that practice humility. And, I believe that we can safely say that those that look within themselves with a broken and contrite heart are more apt to have God’s help in saving their marriage than those with a proud and contentious spirit.
Adjust Your Timeline
Marriage problems are rarely fixed on our timetable. In fact, someone once said that God is seldom early, never late, but always right on time. I would have to say a big amen to the phrase seldom early as God rarely succumbs to our anxious spirits.
Do not Use Biblical Behavior as a Form of Control
Believe it or not, but it is possible to use Biblical behavior as a way of getting your spouse to do what you want. That is, some spouses will change their behavior, but they have a string of expectations attached to their good works. This always pressurizes a marriage, and it has a way of inhibiting growth in the relationship as it usually turns the other spouse off.
We have a whole article dedicated to this point on our free online Biblical counseling page.
Take the High Road
Proverbs 11:17 states:
“The merciful man doeth good to his own soul: but he that is cruel troubleth his own flesh.”
Simply put, the Lord is telling us that we never get low by taking the high road.
When traveling to speak at a marriage conference, I am often asked what I do for a living. I tell people that I spend most of my days telling people to be nice.
I can say a lot of things about marriage, but, at the end of the day, Biblical counseling advice can be summed up like this: be nice for all the right reasons and for the right person, God.