Should I Get a Divorce
More than we realize, many a spouse goes through their day thinking, “Should I get a divorce?” Thoughts often run through their head as such:
Should I stay or leave my spouse?
How will a divorce affect my children?
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Affordable Marriage Counseling, Christian
Affordable Marriage Counseling
If you are one of those looking for affordable marriage counseling, I have a few suggestions for you:
Check in with a Local Church
Though not all pastors like to provide marriage counseling,
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Controlling Husband, Control Freak
Controlling Husband
As a former control freak, I tend to work well with a controlling husband. In fact, I often say to them that my counseling toward controlling husbands does not have great insight as much as “me sight”. That is, being a former control freak in marriage,
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Missing the Mark
After 14 years of helping couples in need as a pastor, life coach, and a Christian marriage speaker, I have come to a few conclusions about those in an unhappy marriage:
1. It is near impossible to make an unhappy person happy.
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Hard to Please Your Spouse, James 4:1-2, Emotionally Distant
Are You Finding it Hard to Please Your Spouse?
Finding it hard to please your spouse? It could be that you are married to someone that is what I call an amazing contradiction. Read a little more to find out if you are married to such a person.
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Finding Happiness in a Difficult Marriage
Is it possible to find happiness in a less than perfect marriage? Are there steps that spouses can take in order to better learn how to be a happy wife or husband in a difficult marital relationship?
Of course, I believe the answer is yes.
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Relationship Problems – How to Handle in a Functional Way
Having Relationship Problems?
Though relationship problems seem to come in all shapes and sizes, it must be understood that there are typically very simple answers to what seems to be rather complex problems. At Hitting Home, we take great delight in providing people a simplified approach to what often feels like very complex issues.
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Why Spouses Lose Feelings For Each Other
Is love simply a mirage? Do feelings only belong on the television screen or in the romance novels? Are feelings in a relationship a type of bait so that the human race will continue to procreate? Of course, I believe the answer is in the negative to all of these questions,
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Biblical Counseling – How to Save Your Marriage
Biblical Counseling – How to Save Your Marriage
Looking for a Biblical way to save your marriage? We trust that you will find this post as well as our articles and resources to be beneficial. We are a truly Christian-based ministry that offers Biblical counseling and life coaching to those looking to save their marriage.
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Relationship Advice – How to Confront Your Spouse
Relationship Advice – How to Confront Your Spouse
The tragedy behind most arguments in marriage is what people fail to say in a calm and peaceful atmosphere, they will typically end up saying in a very heated discussion after much emotional ground is lost.
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Free Ebook on Marriage, Counseling, Coaching
Free Ebook on Marriage
Many having financial difficulties are still in need of bonafide marital help. One of the ways that you can receive Christian-based help is to receive our free ebook on marriage called How to Fight for Your Marriage without Fighting with One Another.
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A Pride Test For Your Marriage
Proverbs 13:10 tells us the following:
“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.”
The scriptures make it abundantly clear that pride is the ultimate killer of relationships. Though some may bristle with this idea,
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When You Are Afraid of Losing Your Spouse
When trying to save your marriage, it is vital to stay in the day. That is, I find that many husbands and wives become so overcome by a fear of what may happen tomorrow that they lose the strength needed to face the problems of today. This is one of the greatest mistakes that are made by those afraid of losing their spouse.
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Biblical Way to Resolve Marriage Issues
Biblical Way to Resolve Marriage Issues
The longer I teach on our 2-step process, the more excited I become. Though I will be the first to admit that our 2-step process is far from being a magic bullet or some miracle tonic, it is simply a Biblical way to resolve marriage issues.
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Passive Husband, Dominant Wife, Advice
Advice for the Dominant Woman Married to a Passive Husband
Verbalizing heart issues is often a difficult task. In trying to help the masses, there are some couples whose paradigm is slightly different from most. For this reason, I would like to address an exception to our article about the Proverbs 18:19 principle,
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Is It Always Wrong To Be Jealous?
Almost every time we hear the word jealous, it is in a negative context. However, in relation to marriage, I am not so sure that every jealous spouse is in the wrong.
God is Jealous
The scriptures teach that God is Jealous in Exodus 34:14.
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Is There Hope For My Marriage?
You may have happened to stumble across our site with the thought in your mind, “Is there hope for my marriage?”. That being the case, I have a few words to say in regards to this question.
Divorce Is Not Necessarily The End
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God in Marriage, The Importance of Having God in a Marriage
Is it important to have God in marriage? Of course, as a pastor and Bible teacher, I believe the answer is a resounding yes. But, here is a short story as to why it is vital to have God in marriage relationships. I hope you enjoy this little sage illustration concerning our family excursions.
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How to Feel Differently About Your Spouse
If you find yourself constantly thinking, “I have no feelings for my husband or wife anymore.”, it is vital to understand that feelings have no engine of their own. Feelings are pulled around by thoughts and actions. Therefore, if you are going to see a change in the way you feel about your spouse,
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The Holy Spirit Will Always Get Along With Himself
I am a firm believer that every home without Christ is incomplete. Here is another excerpt from our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, that shows us why Christ is the Supreme Need for every marriage.
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Finding Happiness in Marriage, Spiritual Joy
Having difficulties finding happiness in marriage? It could be that you need to set a higher goal than simply your own happiness. Here is an excerpt from chapter 1 of our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another.
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Marriage Is A 2-Piece Puzzle
It seems that much of our so called Christian-based material seems to fall short of understanding the purpose of marriage. The chief end to marriage is not our own happiness, but God’s glory.
The Why Behind the What
During our marriage conferences,
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Rules for Communication in Marriage, Yelling, Physical
Couples Should have Rules for Communication in Marriage
When helping couples to learn how to communicate, I often help them to set up what I call a safety fence. This safety fence is a set of rules for communication in marriage that help couples to know when they are getting into what I call a danger zone.
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How to Stop Arguing, Fighting
How to Stop Arguing in a Marriage Relationship
Many couples are tired of fighting with one another and they want to know how to stop arguing in their relationship. Below, I have listed the planks of the safety fence that we encourage couples to stay in when discussing difficult issues.
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Using Conflict For The Good Of The Marriage
Resolving conflict in marriage can be a difficult task. But, it should be noted that all conflict is not bad. If handled properly, conflict can move couples to a greater level of closeness and intimacy.
The Tricky Part of Marriage
The tricky part of marriage is having the wisdom to act enough like adults so that both feel safe enough to act like little children together playing on what I call a playground of vulnerability.
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The I John 1:7 Principle
According to the scriptures, it is impossible for two people to grow closer to Christ and not to one another. Here is a chapter and verse from the scriptures to confirm this principle:
“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light,
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My Definition of a Great Marriage
I have had the pleasure of meeting a few couples that have been married for over sixty years. One such couple was in my last pastorate. Their names were Walt and Alice.
Many Sundays, you could hear Alice calling for her husband across the auditorium by saying,
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Why Marriage Counseling Fails for Some
As a marriage coach, I have found that some couples are able to excel after only a few sessions. On the other hand, there are others that never seem to quite get it right. Though there are a number of factors as to why marriage counseling does not work for some,
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What is True Love?
Paul, in I Corinthians 13:5, says something very remarkable about charity or true love. Under Divine Influence, Paul said:
“[Charity] Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;”
I often use I Corinthians 13:5 when advising couples in that it shows us that true love is not about our personal bent,
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My Husband’s Love Affair With Sports
Some marriages are at a stalemate in that both are waiting for the other to make the first move. In these scenarious both are often feeling neglected and they often accuse the other of not meeting their needs. If your marriage is in such a state, you will find it necessary to step outside of yourself and into the intersts of the other.
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How Manure Saved My Marriage
Properly loving your spouse will require you to do that which is not only illogical, but also least natural for you as a person. If you are newly married or in a premarital relationship, you may be hesitant to receive this saying. If you have been married for quite some time,
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How to Work on Marriage, Relationship
Learning How to Work on Marriage is Something that Must be Learned
Contrary to popular opinion, love does not come natural to humans (Romans 3:17). Now, hormones, romance, and a desire for the opposite sex do, but understanding how to truly love those around us and knowing how to work on marriage is a trait that must be learned.
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How To Grow Old Together
Want to learn what makes a marriage work? Rather than simply researching books on marriage and doing online research, you may want to study the lives of those that have been married for a long time.
In one church where I served as a leader,
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Living with a Difficult Husband, Zoning Out
Are You Living with a Difficult Husband?
Men can be very stubborn. I should know, I am one. Nevertheless, if you are living with a difficult husband, you may find it slightly comforting to know that men are sometimes very good at training their wives to have to use anger to get their attention.
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How to be Content in Your Marriage
Struggling with learning how to be content in your marriage? Typically, thankfulness is a key ingredient for husbands and wives in such a case.
Though this article is directed at women, I feel both men and women will be able to learn valuable lessons from its content.
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Taken for Granted, Couples, Spouse, Wife
Feel Taken for Granted by Your Husband or Your Wife?
At the heart of many fights between husbands and wives is the simple fact that many spouses feel taken for granted. As a pastoral care counselor and a Christian life coach, I have found that a simple attitude of gratitude can go a long way between couples to alleviate many a fight.
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Avoiding Arguments in a Marriage, Differences, Couples
Avoiding Arguments in a Marriage
There is a better way to go about avoiding arguments in a marriage. Rather than just working hard to hold your tongue, there is actually a way to replace those feelings of anger and frustration with a spirit of thankfulness for the other person.
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Not Attracted Anymore, Personality, Repel
Not Attracted Anymore
A vast amount of couples wonder why they were once drawn to one another, yet now they feel they are not attracted to each other. Did you know that although opposites attract, they eventually start to repel from one another?
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Love is Not Finding the Right Person
If you are having marriage issues, I have found it to be vital to, first of all, understand what love truly is and what it is not. If you have confined love to romantic feelings or feeling giddy about one another, you will find that your relationship will be on a perpetual roller coaster ride.
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Simple Marriage Advice, Christian, 2-Step Process
Christian-based, yet Simple Marriage Advice
Couples having marriage issues are often overwhelmed by the amount of advice available to them from counselors, therapists, books on marriage, and well meaning friends and family members. At times, it is more than they can handle. At Hitting Home,
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Going After the Jugular of Marriage Problems
If marriage is so wonderful, why are there so many with marriage problems? At Hitting Home, we like to simplify problems down to the least common denominator. Here is a very simple explanation as to why couples struggle.
The Fundamental Problem
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Why Do Opposites Attract?
Opposites attract in a marital relationship for a variety of reasons. Many view the differences between a man and a woman as a negative. I am a firm believer that the differences between a man and a woman are for our benefit.
Does God Have a Sense of Humor?…
What is Unconditional Love in a Marriage?
At one marriage conference that I conducted, a lady spoke up in the back and said something to the effect of, “Doesn’t all of this just get back to the golden rule.” I really could not have said it better myself. In fact, I often say that if you take everything that I say about marriage,
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Feel Love Anymore, Giving, Newly Married
I Don’t Feel Love Anymore for My Husband / Wife
“I just don’t feel love anymore for my spouse.”
“I don’t have love in my heart toward my spouse.”
“I don’t think there is any more love between my spouse and myself.”
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Fear of Losing Husband, Wife, Relationship, Marriage
Overcome with a Fear of Losing Your Husband or Your Wife?
If you have a fear of losing your husband or your wife, there are usually three to four classic mistakes that you will be prone to make. One of those mistakes is to desperately pursue the other person.
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When Your Spouse is Trying to Win You Back
Are you living with a spouse that is working overtime to win you over? Finding it difficult to process all the changes and accept this new normal around the home? If so, you probably feel slightly overwhelmed in that as you hide out in an emotional break room requesting space,
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How To Rebuild Trust In A Marriage
We hope you enjoy this excerpt from chapter 5 of our new Christian marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another. It not only shows couples how to rebuild trust in a marriage,
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How to Win Your Spouse Back
If you are looking for answers on how to win your husband back (or your wife), we are offering Christian-based help. Mark it down, however, a spirit of desperation will do little to help you to win your spouse back. Here is some Christian-based advice on this subject.
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Great Motives But Lousy Methods
Most couples fight for their marriage in a way that hurts their relationship instead of helping it. I admit, their motives are usually honorable, but it is their methods that are less than effective.
Moses had a great motive when he came to the aid of the Hebrew slave in Exodus 2:11-12.
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How To Stay Encouraged In Your Marriage
If you are feeling discouraged in your marriage, you may need to tweak your expectations. You are about to read one of the most important bits of counseling advice that Dr. Force shares with couples in need.
Results-Driven versus Right-Driven
Husbands and wives trying to resolve their issues have a way of setting themselves up for feelings of discouragement in marriage.
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