According to the scriptures, it is impossible for two people to grow closer to Christ and not to one another. Here is a chapter and verse from the scriptures to confirm this principle:
“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another . . .” – I John 1:7
The scriptures are teaching that if two people will walk with God, they will not only have a judicial relationship with one another, but also a deep and an intimate fellowship with one another. Quite simply, this is because the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself. In fact, my wife and I have seen that if we are not in unity, then either one of us or both of us are not walking in the Spirit.
More than a Judicial Relationship
Some years ago, my wife and I found ourselves emotionally, mentally, and spiritually far apart. Though I was in the ministry, I was even asking, “Can God help my marriage?”.
Though my wife and I still had a judicial relationship with one another, there was a great divide between my heart and hers. What was the solution? How did we bridge the gap between us? Ultimately, we built a bridge between our hearts with Christ, Biblical principles, and the Holy Spirit. Simply put, as we both focused on God and His Word, our hearts could not help but to become as one.
Though there are many lessons to be learned in the journey to enjoying a happy marriage, do not miss this lesson about Christ. If not, you are leaving off on the greatest lesson to be learned.
Colossians 3:14 tells us that charity or true, Biblical love is the “bond of perfectness“. The entire verse says”:
“And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.”
At first, Colossians 3:14 may seem like an obscure expression. But, in reality, the verse is telling us that the love that only comes from God above produces a bond between believers that may not be improved upon. In other words, there is not a stronger unifying agent than that which the love of God can provide.
16 of our 18 years of marriage were not good. 1 year he was in an alcohol rehab. The man I married didn’t do a lot of things he ended up doing. He still read his bible, but was angry with me…. blamed me. He screamed on several occasions that he wanted a divorce or freedom. I wouldn’t let him smoke in the house and got upset with porn. He moved out and one day while “trying to get along”…. he ended with 2 accounts of domestic violence against our kids. I finally filed for divorce because I felt that is what he wanted. We were living that way anyhow. Now things are not great with my kids. I sometimes wonder if taking verbal abuse and still trying to be a Godly wife would be better than no father in the home.
He really hates me and blames me. I miss being married because we had occasional moments of getting along. I believe in miracles still. Any thoughts?
Maybe he has a mental health disorder? Depression or bipolar? Will he go to his doctor? It may seem far fetched but I have a friend who is going through something similar and they found out he was bipolar. Praying for you.