What to do When a Spouse will Not End an Affair
What is a husband or wife to do when their spouse will not end an affair? In my experience as a pastoral care counselor and a life coach, I have seen a variety of reactions.
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Our Marriage Book Has Finally Arrived
Marriage Book Arrival
Yesterday, we were blessed to see the arrival of our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another. This has been a long time coming as I have been diligently working on it for over three years.
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Have I Forgiven My Spouse?
Have I Forgiven My Spouse
What is forgiveness? How does one measure forgiveness? How can a spouse know if they have forgiven their mate or not? How does the person asking, “Have I forgiven my spouse?” truly know if they are a forgiving spouse?
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Marriage Problems with Children
Marriage Problems with Children
Couples argue about three things the most: money, sex, and children. Though there are other pressures in marriage, it should be said that it can be doubly difficult to fix your marriage problems as well as parenting problems at the same time.
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Scriptures on Being a Good Wife, Proverbs 31:10, Titus 2:3
Scriptures on Being a Good Wife
Here are a few scriptures on being a good wife. Though there are many more, I will relate four scriptures that are very applicable.
Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
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Unforgiveness is . . .
There are many ways that we could define unforgiveness. However, I find it helpful to define unforgiveness as such:
Unforgiveness is chaining yourself to a problem that you never wanted in the first place.
The Problem with Unforgiveness
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Unforgiveness in Marriage, Signs
Unforgiveness in Marriage
There are a number of things that I could say in this article about unforgiveness in marriage. However, I would like to just relay a few points that I shared with our congregation this last Sunday.
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Husband is Mean
Do you feel that your husband is mean?
If the internet was around when we were first married, my wife would probably have been searching for this page. I will readily admit that at times I was a mean husband, but I am so glad for God’s grace and my wife’s wisdom as it helped to push us through those difficult times.
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Scriptures on Anger Management, King James Version
Scriptures on Anger Management
Here are a few scriptures on anger management from the King James Version of the Bible. For more Christian anger management help, you may also want to check out our Christian anger management book called Angry Without a Cause.
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Should I Stay Married for the Kid’s Sake?
Many wonder if they should stay in a marriage for the children’s sake. My standard answer for those having what some might call normal marital disagreements is yes. Here’s why:
Divorce desensitizes children to the very thought of it.
When dad and mom divorce,
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Scriptures on Adultery, King James Version, Galatians 5, Proverbs 6
Scriptures on Adultery
Though I have never counted them up, there are probably just as many scriptures on adultery as there are on marriage itself. Unfortunately, this does not reveal something good about mankind.
Nevertheless, here are a few important scriptures on adultery and unfaithfulness that should help you in grasping a Biblical view on the subject.
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The Controlling Christian Wife
I certainly understand that there are a vast amount of husbands that have failed in their marital responsibilities. However, sometimes, there are what I call bad solutions to bad problems. And, it should be noted that even when a husband falls down on the job, it is not a license for a wife to become a controlling wife.
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Trouble Getting Over an Affair?
Having Trouble Getting Over an Affair?
If you are having trouble getting over an affair, you already know that there are a number of obstacles to overcome. These obstacles include fear, regaining trust, dealing with mental images, the marriage bed, and unforgiveness. Let me take a few moments to deal with the issue of overcoming fear and regaining trust after an affair.
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Is My Marriage Over?
First off, I want to say that as I write this, I am already in prayer for the many of you that will read this who are dealing with the very difficult effects of separation, marital arguments, legal proceedings, custody battles, or adultery. For many of you,
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Biblical Marriage Book
As of today, our Kindle version of our Biblical marriage book is live and ready to download. Though we are awaiting shipment from the printer of our paperback version, we are set up to take pre-orders. You may place your order at www.Shop.HittingHomeMinistry.com.
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Forgiving Yourself After an Affair, Psalm 51, David
How to Forgive Yourself After an Affair
It’s one thing to be forgiven by your spouse after an affair, but how does one handle it when they are finding it difficult to forgive themselves after an affair. Here is a major scriptural point to consider.
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Marriage Ultimatum – Why it Does Not Work
Considering a Marriage Ultimatum?
I am often asked about marriage ultimatums. Though I am sure that there have been a few times in history when marriage ultimatums have worked, let me provide a little insight as to why they often are futile.
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Scriptures on Marriage Restoration, King James Version
More Scriptures on Marriage Restoration
Here are a few scriptures on marriage restoration.
James 5:16
James 5:16 (KJV) says:
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another,
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Selfishness Is No Respecter Of Persons
What is a wife to do if she finds that she is married to a selfish husband? Here is a little practical advice on the subject.
Recognize that the Problem is Not Necessarily about You
In my book on anger,
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Scriptures for Marriage Problems, Proverbs
Looking for Scriptures for Marriage Problems?
When looking for scriptures for marriage problems, it should be understood that the entire Bible should be considered to be a marriage book. This is because the greatest need for most couples having marriage problems is for them to get back to God rather simply getting back with one another.
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What To Do When Your Husband Embarrasses You?
What should a wife do with an embarrassing husband that is too loud, obnoxious, inappropriate in social settings, cutting, or just rude in front of others. Though the cross can be a heavy one to bear, I hope this little bit of marriage advice will help.
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Scripture on Marriage – Proverbs 5:15-20
Scripture on Marriage
The most popular scriptures on marriage are in Ephesians 5 and I Corinthians 7. But, I would like to present a scripture on marriage that is often overlooked. It is in Proverbs 5:15-20.
The Meaning of Proverbs 5:15-20
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Spouse has Filed for Divorce – What Should I Do?
If your spouse has filed for divorce, I cannot help you from a legal perspective. I will leave that up to the lawyers. However, if you are struggling with what to do from a relationship perspective after your spouse has filed for divorce, I can be of assistance.
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Marriage Problems While The Wife Is Expecting
When assisting couples in need, I often ask them how many children they have. I then go on to ask them the age of their children. If I find out that they have a newborn baby or a baby on the way, my counseling and coaching takes on a different flavor.
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What A Woman Wants Deep Down Inside
What a woman wants deep down inside is a man that is a cross between William Wallace and her best girlfriend. She wants his strength at 3 pm when he is working hard for the family, but would rather have his tenderness at 9 pm when she is befuddled from a hard day.
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Christian Marriage Video, Hitting Home, Conference Material
Christian Marriage Video
We are pleased to offer to you our newest Christian marriage video called the Top Mistake Couples Make in a Fight. This details our philosophy behind our 2-step process as well as one of our number one teachings.
Saving Marriages
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Manhood, The Great Prerequisite For Marriage
When providing marriage help for men, I am often forced to point out that many men are simply little boys in the bodies of men. That is, mentally, emotionally, and, especially, spiritually, many men have failed to grow up.
Unfortunately, very few boys seem to be truly making it to manhood.
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Should We Separate?
Should We Separate?
Couples having extreme marital issues often ask, “Should we separate?” For those in such a state, I trust my advice will help you to find some clarity.
Separation Seems to Slow the Recovery Process Down
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Should I Get a Divorce, Biblical View
Should I Get a Divorce
More than we realize, many a spouse goes through their day thinking, “Should I get a divorce?” Thoughts often run through their head as such:
Should I stay or leave my spouse?
How will a divorce affect my children?
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Detroit – Flint Michigan, Christian Marriage Conference, August 2015
Detroit – Flint, Michigan Christian Marriage Conference, August 1st, 2015
We are pleased to announce that we have been invited for a second year in a row to the Flint / Detroit, Michigan area to conduct a Christian Marriage Conference.
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Christian Help after an Affair
Desiring Christian Help after an Affair?
Christian help after an affair is available from a variety of sources. These sources may include:
The Bible
Your church
Local Christian marriage ministries
Christian based resources
Close Christian friends
Family members
Marriage counselors and therapists
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Will My Marriage Survive An Affair?
Will My Marriage Survive an Affair?
After adultery has taken place, many ask the question, “Will my marriage survive an affair?” Let me give you some insight as to why your marriage can survive an affair.
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Book on Marriage, Simple, Short, Marriage Counseling Method
Why the Shortness of our Book on Marriage?
One would think that a book on marriage would need to be a 300 page book with vast amounts of end notes. Though books as such are often wonderful books, the shortness of our book on marriage is due to the beauty of our 2-step process.
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How to Move Forward after an Affair
Biblical Help on How to Move Forward After an Affair
There is a reason why God said, “Thou shalt not commit adultery”. (Exodus 20:14) It is not only disobedience to His Word, but it hurts. In fact, it hurts a lot. I hope this little article on how to move forward after an affair will help some to gain a little more perspective on how to move forward from the ravaging effects of infidelity.
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Why Did My Spouse have an Affair?
Why Did My Spouse Have an Affair?
This is a very common question for spouses to ask after their husband or wife commits adultery. Here are some very important points to consider if you are one of those consumed with trying to figure out why your spouse had an affair.
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Affordable Marriage Counseling, Christian
Affordable Marriage Counseling
If you are one of those looking for affordable marriage counseling, I have a few suggestions for you:
Check in with a Local Church
Though not all pastors like to provide marriage counseling,
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Christian Marriage Blog
Christian Marriage Blog
I noticed the other day that a vast amount of people search for a christian marriage blog on a daily basis. That being the case, I thought I had better let you know some of the features of our blog as they may not be apparent upon first visiting our Christian marriage blog.
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Kindle Version – Christian Marriage Book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting One Another
Kindle Version – Christian Marriage Book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another
We are pleased to offer our Christian marriage book in a kindle version as well as a hard copy. Though I am not one of those that have converted to ebooks as of yet,
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Controlling Husband, Control Freak
Controlling Husband
As a former control freak, I tend to work well with a controlling husband. In fact, I often say to them that my counseling toward controlling husbands does not have great insight as much as “me sight”. That is, being a former control freak in marriage,
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Signs of a Cheating Spouse, Phone, Call Records, Distant
Signs of a Cheating Spouse
What are the signs of a cheating spouse? Is it possible to tell if your spouse is having an affair or an adulterous relationship?
Some Signs of a Cheating Spouse
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Bible Study Book on Marriage, King James Version
Our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, has been deigned for individual and group use. Here are a few helpful hints on how to use our Bible study book on marriage in a group setting.
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Feelings for Another Person, Other than Spouse, Affair
Feelings for Another Person Outside of the Marriage
Having feelings for another person other than your spouse is definitely out of bounds according to the scriptures. Here are some helpful thoughts on the matter:
True Love
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Emotional Affair – Is It Adultery?
Many wonder if an emotional affair is actually adultery. I believe so for the following reasons:
Jesus Words in Matthew 5:27-28
I do not believe it would be a stretch to apply the words of Jesus in Matthew 5:27-28 to this issue.
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Surviving an Affair – What You Need to Know
Spouses that are working at surviving an affair are often in a tail spin during the first few weeks and months. It is important for husbands and wives trying to survive the devastating effects of an affair to know the following:
Do Not Make Any Major Decisions at First
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Christian Marriage Conference Nebraska, Omaha, Lincoln, March 2015
Christian Marriage Conference, Omaha / Lincoln Area – Plattsmouth, Nebraska, March 2015
We are honored by the invite to be a part of the Christian marriage conference / retreat in Plattsmouth, NE on March 28th-29th, 2015.
Host Church
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Missing the Mark
After 14 years of helping couples in need as a pastor, life coach, and a Christian marriage speaker, I have come to a few conclusions about those in an unhappy marriage:
1. It is near impossible to make an unhappy person happy.
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Intimacy after an Affair, How Soon, When
Intimacy after an affair
I am often asked when couples should attempt to enjoy intimacy after an affair. Here is my typical answer:
STD’s
Before considering intimacy after an affair the subject of STD’s should be addressed.
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The 3 Parts Of Communication In A Marriage
If couples are going to effectively communicate, they must learn how to communicate three basic things in their conversations. If couples fail to communicate these three things, their conversations will typically fail. Here is a brief description of all three of these areas:
How They Feel
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Would you have been happy in paradise?
Here’s a little jewel from Matthew Henry on marriage, happiness, and contentment.
Matthew Henry said it well when he said:
“He that has a good God, a good heart, and a good wife, to converse with, and yet complains .
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Stop Texting And Arguing
I can’t take it anymore. As a pastor and a relationship coach that deals with conflict resolution on a daily basis, I have noticed that texting, emailing, and messaging people during an argument is horribly detrimental. This is why I often counsel and coach couples to stop texting and arguing.
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