Many wonder if they should stay in a marriage for the children’s sake. My standard answer for those having what some might call normal marital disagreements is yes. Here’s why:
Divorce desensitizes children to the very thought of it.
When dad and mom divorce, the children are desensitized to the very thought of divorce. Consequently, it makes divorce that much easier for the next generation to do the same.
Honestly, the very thought of divorce should be a shock to everyone’s system, but, sad to say, the opposite is true.
Divorce makes children angry.
When parents divorce, children almost always experience feelings of anger, frustration, and even guilt. In fact, I have had many people tell me that it was not until their parents divorced that they became rebellious children. In most cases, these children are not so much rebelling as much as trying to communicate their frustration to their parents.
Statistics prove that divorce negatively affects children.
The stats concerning fatherless homes are overwhelmingly negative. You really do not have to do much research to see that this is the case. Though a single mom is not in a hopeless situation, both parents will be wise to do everything possible to fight for her marriage while there is hope.
Marriage is God’s medium to help produce a godly seed.
In regards to marriage, Malachi 2:15 says:
“And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed.”
Clearly, the Lord is teaching that one of the primary purposes of marriage is to produce godly children. Once again, though being a single parent does not make it impossible for children to serve the Lord, it is a more difficult road to travel as many well know.
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> Though a single mom is not in a hopeless situation, she will be wise to do everything possible to fight for her marriage while there is hope.<
why is the onus on HER? IF fighting for her marriage means more emotional abuse, it will NOT benefit the kids to be witness to that behavior.
Because a woman should submit to her husband always.
I would not agree with the use of the word always in your comment. If that were the case then a man would have to always submit to earthly governments, even when they are demanding that he disobey the Lord. (Acts 5:29)
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Dr. Force
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Amen!! I’d like to add, from personal experience in an unequally yoked marriage having thought about this, that my conclusion is, separating or divorcing would put the children under 50% of my influence. Whereas remaining together gives me 100% influence.. I feel that is a bit of what Paul was getting at in 1 Cor 7..:)
Good thought. Thanks for sharing.
We also cover these principles in our marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, in chapter 2.
Dr. Force
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