I am a firm believer that every home without Christ is incomplete. Here is another excerpt from our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, that shows us why Christ is the Supreme Need for every marriage.
It is impossible in a marriage for two people to grow closer to Christ and not to one another. This is a scriptural principle found in I John 1:7:
“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another . . .”
The word “we” in the above mentioned verse is a plural pronoun that can be applied to two people in a Christian marriage. The scriptures are showing us that if two people walk close to Christ they will have much more than a judicial relationship. They will also enjoy an intimate fellowship with one another.
The Holy Spirit Will Get Along with Himself
A few years ago, my wife and I came to the conclusion that the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself. In fact, we started to see that if we were not getting along, either one of us or both of us were not walking in the Spirit.
I am not so sure that people have marriage problems as much as they have spiritual problems. Once again, the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself, therefore, the greater need in any relationship is not so much to get along with one another as it is to get along with God.
In Ephesians 4:2, the Apostle Paul commanded the church to “keep the unity of the Spirit”. I believe it is beneficial to notice that their commonality was not based upon themselves, but rather the Holy Spirit. It is also crucial to see that, in the following verses, Paul went on to teach why the church should enjoy such unity. Paul said:
“There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.” (Ephesians 4:4-6)
Paul was teaching that if God is one, then believers walking in God’s Spirit should be able to move as one. This is all because it is impossible for God to have disunity with Himself.
Find Your Commonality in Christ
In relation to marriage, couples should understand that in all their learning about marriage and relationships, they should not leave off learning about Christ. Instead of trying to find commonality in mutual attraction, personal interests, or goals, they will do much better to endeavor to enjoy the unity that can only be found in the Spirit.
Some may be inclined to feel this approach to be too simplistic? However, after years of helping couples in need as a pastor and Christian marriage speaker, I have come to the conclusion that the Holy Spirit is the missing link in most marriages today. In fact, if your home is devoid of God, then no matter how much you excel in other areas, your home will always be incomplete in some form or fashion. God created marriage so that it only functions at optimum capacity with Him at the very center.
Never did a couple enjoy a better marriage than our first parents, Adam and Eve. In the Garden of Eden, they were filled with God, therefore, they enjoyed a perfect unity. It was not until they fell out of relationship with God that fear and despair entered the scene.
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Dear Dr Force
My husband and I have been married for 17 years now . Well 5 years ago he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and depression. He has not been close to the Lord at all since then. He blames God for this disorder. I want to help him and I know I can through prayer . I feel like I should be doing more to get him out of this funk. He is a strong Christian use to tell everyone about Jesus but ever since this happened he doesn’t. We both go to counseling. I just feel like I could do more for my husband . Thank you for your time.
Same thing has happened to me. Except I was the one diagnosed. Am on meds now and I hate it. God seems so far away now. I know in my head He is not but I cant seem to line up my head with mY heart. In a rut and can’t seem to get out. Feeling alone and not sure how to not be mad about the diagnosis and meds.