The Holy Spirit Will Always Get Along With Himself


I am a firm believer that every home without Christ is incomplete. Here is another excerpt from our new marriage book, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, that shows us why Christ is the Supreme Need for every marriage.


Absolutely Impossible


It is impossible in a marriage for two people to grow closer to Christ and not to one another. This is a scriptural principle found in I John 1:7:


“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another . . .”


The word “we” in the above mentioned verse is a plural pronoun that can be applied to two people in a Christian marriage.  The scriptures are showing us that if two people walk close to Christ they will have much more than a judicial relationship.  They will also enjoy an intimate fellowship with one another.


The Holy Spirit Will Get Along with Himself


A few years ago, my wife and I came to the conclusion that the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself.  In fact, we started to see that if we were not getting along, either one of us or both of us were not walking in the Spirit.

I am not so sure that people have marriage problems as much as they have spiritual problems. Once again, the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself, therefore, the greater need in any relationship is not so much to get along with one another as it is to get along with God.


Ephesians 4:2-6


In Ephesians 4:2, the Apostle Paul commanded the church to “keep the unity of the Spirit”.  I believe it is beneficial to notice that their commonality was not based upon themselves, but rather the Holy Spirit.  It is also crucial to see that, in the following verses, Paul went on to teach why the church should enjoy such unity. Paul said:


“There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling; One Lord, one faith, one baptism, One God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.” (Ephesians 4:4-6)


Paul was teaching that if God is one, then believers walking in God’s Spirit should be able to move as one. This is all because it is impossible for God to have disunity with Himself.


Find Your Commonality in Christ


In relation to marriage, couples should understand that in all their learning about marriage and relationships, they should not leave off learning about Christ. Instead of trying to find commonality in mutual attraction, personal interests, or goals, they will do much better to endeavor to enjoy the unity that can only be found in the Spirit.

Some may be inclined to feel this approach to be too simplistic?  However, after years of helping couples in need as a pastor and Christian marriage speaker, I have come to the conclusion that the Holy Spirit is the missing link in most marriages today.   In fact, if your home is devoid of God, then no matter how much you excel in other areas, your home will always be incomplete in some form or fashion. God created marriage so that it only functions at optimum capacity with Him at the very center.

Never did a couple enjoy a better marriage than our first parents, Adam and Eve. In the Garden of Eden, they were filled with God, therefore, they enjoyed a perfect unity. It was not until they fell out of relationship with God that fear and despair entered the scene.


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21 comments on “The Holy Spirit Will Always Get Along With Himself
  1. Amanda says:

    This has been helpful to me going through my time apart from my husband I am a firm believer that God can restore a marriage that may be broken I pray and fast that God shows me what direction he wants me to go on I have faith that God will bring us back together in his own time I thank you for encouraging marriages because I am learning know that this is not my fight me doing it myself has only made more problems and added fuel to the flames

  2. Lori says:

    I love my husband and ee are born again believers but he still at 45 will meet with his buddies go to bars (they go to srip clubbs) he says he does not i believe him but all these men are married. He calls me insecure yet one of his friends even showed me his body parts and hit on me and another tried to grab me in a sexual way. These situations happened with the spouses in another room and my husband was also present. Im so hurt he knows this bothers me that he still spends days and nghts with them in motel many miles from home. Suggestions please!

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