What should a wife do with an embarrassing husband that is too loud, obnoxious, inappropriate in social settings, cutting, or just rude in front of others. Though the cross can be a heavy one to bear, I hope this little bit of marriage advice will help.
He is not You
First off, it should be understood that other people know the difference between you and your husband. Though you may feel as if others are criticizing you in their minds, you are probably slightly misguided in that they understand that he is acting under his own volition. If anything, others probably see exactly what you see, and they understand your plight.
He is not a Reflection of You
Though in a perfect world couples should stick together in purpose and unity, it is helpful in these situation to know that your husband is not necessarily a reflection of you. It is also helpful to know that people know that. Therefore, you do not need to try to recover his reputation, make excuses, or hide out from being seen with him.
Count Your Blessings, Your Cross May Not be as Heavy as Others
If your husband is a little loud, out of touch with other’s feelings, or a social invalid, then you may need to count your blessings. That is, be thankful he is not a drug addict, money launderer, an adulterer, or a jail bird.
In 1 Thessalonians 5:18, Paul said, “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” Joy typically comes in life when we learn to make the best of the life we have rather than the life we want. In fact, it was Spurgeon that said, “To whom enough is never plenty, plenty will never be enough.”
Validate Him as a Man
Many times, people act in embarrassing ways because they are seeking the love and attention they missed as a child. Instead of ridiculing an embarrassing husband, you may find it more beneficial to wield what I call the sword of thankfulness and praise. In fact, the more you push an embarrassing husband down, you will find that he will probably act in even more embarrassing ways to either spite you or gain a little more attention.
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Does the same rule apply when hubby embarrasses you in public but it’s not just how he behaves but how he treats me, humiliating me, talking harshly, putting down (sometimes through a joke), making fun of the way I pronounce something, yelling, bringing up something private, etc.
Please pray for me. My husband gets overly angry over petty things. He has embarrassed me 3 times in a grocery store getting angry at me for something. I can’t help but cry, it hurt so much that it doesn’t bother him to hurt my feelings. He has caused my son and his wife to not feel comfortable at our home because my husband said they disrespected him by tending to the bonfire, and my daughter in law sat in my patio swing…..instead of just nicely and maturely saying “hey, I’d appreciate it if…” he let it build up and then WENT OFF!! He and I fought about it. I thought maybe after he calmed down he would realize he handled it wrong, but he doesn’t. Or at least he hasn’t apologized. Even after my daughter in law apologized for overstepping (although she really didn’t). I can’t continue to live like thus. I’m afraid to say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing. Please pray he will somehow see…