Will My Marriage Survive an Affair?
After adultery has taken place, many ask the question, “Will my marriage survive an affair?” Let me give you some insight as to why your marriage can survive an affair.
Because Others Have Done It
Though I am not one to base all of my decisions on what others are doing, it is sometimes helpful to see that other marriages have survived an affair.
I Corinthians 10:13 tells us:
“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:”
Simply put, God is telling us that, in some form or fashion, we all tend to face the same issues in life. That said, I believe it is helpful to see how others have solved their issues as it can, at times, be a source of encouragement and learning.
Because Others Are There to Help You
You do not have to handle your marriage issues alone. In fact, you would be unwise to try and fix your marriage issues by what I call trial and error.
Counselors, therapists, and coaches exist to help you to find the right answers at the right time. So be sure to reach out and seek the counsel of others as you are typically too emotional too find a solution on your own.
Our 2-step process has helped a number of couples to move out of the muck of adultery. Whether you learn about our 2-step process through our book on marriage, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, our Audio Series, or our private coaching services, you may find our approach refreshing and extremely helpful.
Though I do not like to advertise any type of a success rate, I would have to say that when we deal with couples, we are accustomed to winning more than we lose. However, we simply owe that to the fact that Biblical principles work when applied and taught in a Spirit-led fashion.
Because God is Able
I loathe trite religious sayings. Yet, it should be noted that no matter how overused the expression is, God is able to do all things.
Though I will never be the one that will guarantee success in your particular situation, I will say no matter what the outcome of your marriage, seek the Lord and His guidance at this time.
Once again, no matter how your spouse proceeds from this point on, I would greatly encourage you to seek after the Lord as faith in God is believing Him and leaving all the consequences to Him. And, one thing is for sure, if you seek the Lord, I already know something about you: whether in this life or the life to come, your future is bright.
For those asking, “Will my marriage survive an affair?”, it is also important to know that, at times, you are better with the devil you know than the devil you do not know. In other words, though I would never advocate staying with an unrepentant adulterer, there are times when a repentant adulterer is, indeed, truly repentant. And, it could be that as they have touched the hot stove of adultery, they are certain to never flirt with that danger again.
Proverbs 20:30 tell us that “the blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly.” In other words, once a person touches a hot stove, sometimes, the pain is great enough to convince them to never do it again.
Though there are certainly exceptions to the Proverbs 20:30 principle, you may be living with someone that will never commit adultery again. This may be because they now see that adultery is simply a mirage that ends in misery.