What Makes a Marriage Work, Holy Spirit, Power

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Want to learn what makes a marriage work?  Rather than simply researching books on marriage and doing online research, you may want to study the lives of those that have been married for a long time.

In one church where I served as a leader, I was blessed with the opportunity of observing the marriages of two couples in particular.  In a sense, they wrote a marriage book before my eyes.

 

What I Observed

 

I enjoy meeting elderly couples that have a great marriage. In one church where I served as a pastor, there were two couples in their eighties that had been married for over 60 years.  Here are a few of the ingredients I noticed in their relationship that taught me what makes a marriage work:

 

They had Given up on Trying to Perfect One Another

 

Rather than trying to perfect one another, they had learned to laugh at one another, compromise a little, and serve one another despite their differences.

 

They had Supernatural Power

 

They had a power within themselves that gave them the ability to love and enjoy one another.  Most couples struggling with anger, misuse of the tongue, and little self control need way more than will-power.  They need a Supernatural power called the Holy Spirit.

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They Served the Lord Together

 

According to the scriptures, it is impossible for two people to grow closer to Christ and not to one another (I John 1:7).  In my estimation, this is the most important aspect of what makes a marriage work.

 

They Did Not Look at their Marriage as their Primary Source of Happiness

 

I often say that happy singles make happy married people. In reality, the way God has designed marriage to work is that both parties should wake up happy because of the fact that their cup of God’s favor and blessing is running over. The joy and peace that spills out of that cup should be what lands on the other person.

 

They were not Afraid to Act like Little Children Around One Another

 

One of the wives that was in her eighties still used terms of like “lover” toward her husband.  In fact, it was not uncommon for us to hear her saying “lover” to get her husband’s attention while they were at church or out and about.  One night after church, we overheard her saying to her husband, “Oh what a beautiful night! It’s a night for lovers.”.

Another one of those elderly couples just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary. I would have to say that my heart is touched when she tells me how emotional she gets when her husband picks a handful of flowers for her while checking the mail.

This all leads me to tell you of my definition of a great marriage:

 

“A great marriage is when two full-grown adults feel vulnerable and safe enough to let the little children within themselves come out and talk and play with one another.”

 

I have found that most of us are just little children in big people’s bodies. Consequently, the problem in many marriages is that when the husband and wife come out to play and talk with one another, tension soon arises. It is at that point that many husbands and wives march back into their house and slam the door shut. Conversely, some husbands and wives choose a different rout in that they stay outside, but they quickly get caught up in calling each other names, yelling, and, well, you name it.

Either way, both scenarios are extremely unproductive, and they occur because couples lack the proper relationship skills to ensure a safe and enjoyable atmosphere.

One of the tricky things about marriage is learning to act like full-grown adults so that you feel like acting like little children around each other. Though it is a difficult balance, it is nonetheless vital to learn how to do so.

Our Christian teachings on marriage and relationships exalt many of the principles that I observed in these two couples.  If you would like to learn more about what makes a marriage work from a scriptural perspective, be sure to check out our new audio series or our soon to be released book on marriage and relationships.

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One comment on “What Makes a Marriage Work, Holy Spirit, Power
  1. Anonymous says:

    Marriages have really been abused because couples don’t even understand why they marry

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