Looking for Scriptures for Marriage Problems?
When looking for scriptures for marriage problems, it should be understood that the entire Bible should be considered to be a marriage book. This is because the greatest need for most couples having marriage problems is for them to get back to God rather simply getting back with one another.
In our book on marriage, How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another, we take up a number of pages teaching that God is the Supreme Need for every marriage. This is because the Holy Spirit will always get along with Himself. Therefore, the greatest need for most couples is to be filled with God rather than simply one another’s love.
Scriptures for Marriage Problems from Proverbs and Ephesians
If you are familiar with our ministry, you know that I like to say some old things in a way that has never been said before. This is actually why we call our ministry Hitting Home.
That said, though I could share with you scriptures for marriage problems such as Ephesians 5:25-33, Colossians 3:18-19, and I Peter 3:1-7 (I deal with these verses in other articles), I would like to give you some scriptures for marriage problems that you may not have considered.
Proverbs 25:15 states:
“By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.”
You will go much farther fighting for your marriage using softness than you will with harsh and critical words. In fact, if you truly want to break the bone of disunity and dysfunction in your marriage, according to Proverbs, one of your greatest weapons is a soft tongue.
This Proverb states:
“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.”
Proverbs is telling us that anytime an argument takes place between a husband and a wife, pride is involved.
Keep in mind, if you actually ever happen to win an argument with your spouse, you have convinced 1 out of about 6 and a half billion people in the world. And, to be honest, that tells me that you haven’t accomplished very much.
If you are going to succeed in marriage, you will have to decide whether you want your marriage to die on a battlefield of rightness or walk in a garden of grace. That is, you will have to determine whether or not you want to be right or have a great marriage.
Marriage is the unified journey of two forgivers that realize that they should be as gracious to one another as God has been to them. However, if you are more worried about winning an argument than overlooking the faults of the other, you will fail to move forward as a married couple.
In Paul’s letter to the church at Ephesus, he says:
“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
This is applicable to those looking for scriptures on marriage problems in that I find that couples find great power in wielding what I call the sword of gentleness.
Gentleness seems to accomplish much in even the worst of marital situations. Here are a few fringe benefits of using gentleness to solve marriage issues:
Gentleness has a way of softening even the hardest of hearts.
Gentleness seems to be able to open doors in people’s minds that are otherwise closed if anger and resentment are displayed.
Gentleness causes the focus to remain on the issue at hand.