Is There Hope For My Marriage?

You may have happened to stumble across our site with the thought in your mind, “Is there hope for my marriage?”. That being the case, I have a few words to say in regards to this question.

Divorce Is Not Necessarily The End

God is much bigger than a piece of paper filed in a divorce court. In fact, though I still encourage people to be realistic, it should be understood that I have seen a number of couples come out of divorce and enjoy a great marital relationship with each other. Does it happen all the time? Of course the answer would be no, but it should be said that it does happen.

Do Not Be Scared By The Ghosts

Husbands and wives having issues are very good about scaring each other with what I call ghosts. That is, they have a way of making the other person fearful that there is nothing more they can do to save the marriage or promote change.

It is very common when dealing with couples for me to say that I have more faith in their marriage than they do. This, once again, is due to the ghosts that couples send out to one another through the following ways:

Threats of divorce

Showing extreme coldness to the other

Exhibiting feelings of resentment

Talking as if the divorce is imminent

Little or no talk of the future together

90 Percent Of Success

I once heard that 90 percent of success is showing up. In relation to marriage, this is also an applicable thought.

I have seen some very difficult cases as a pastoral counselor and a life coach. But, even in some of the worst of cases, I have seen that a willingness to stick it out and keep showing up is very powerful.

Proverbs 28:20 tells us that a “faithful man shall abound with blessings”. Though staying in the game is never a full proof guarantee that all will be well in your marriage, I do believe that God teaches that faithfulness in a marriage is a necessary ingredient to securing His blessings.

If You Have Made It This Far

I realize that some of our readers have marriages that have suffered from adultery, heavy baggage from the past, excessive demonstrations of anger, et cetera. All that being said, it should be noted that if your marriage has made it this far, maybe your marriage is stronger than you realize. In other words, if you have not broken up by now, with a little learning and personal growth, there is probably very little that your marriage cannot overcome.

I heard someone once say that even the best of marriages have their struggles. That said, it is also important to ask the question, “If my marriage has made it this far, what is out there that we cannot face together?”

Closing Prayer

Lord, help all who are feeling, “Is there hope for my marriage?” to find their hope in You instead of their spouse. Give them the faith to look up and see that the sufferings of this world are but for a moment. And, they are but a light affliction (II Corinthians 4:17) in comparison to the glory that shall be revealed in those that have trusted Christ.