How to Respond to a Husband’s Lack of Love
On a weekly basis, we receive emails and phone calls from wives looking for answers on how to respond to a husband that is involved with negative behavior. Here is an excerpt from our new book, How to Fight for Your Marriage without Fighting with One Another, on how to respond to a husband that seems to be falling short of his responsibilities in a marriage
A Woman Can Become Her Own Martyr
A woman sometimes contributes to her own martyrdom by retreating behind a battle line of emotion and then tragically falling on her own sword of negativity. Oddly enough, she can often then be heard crying foul when her husband fails to come to her rescue.
Women become their own martyr by simply responding negatively toward their husband’s faults and failures. With some, their resentment is painstakingly overt, while with others it is more subtle in nature. There are even those whose negativity is shrouded with a cloak of religion in that they quote the sweet scriptures, yet with a spirit of bitterness.
Nonetheless, if a woman continues to respond to her husband with a contentious spirit, she will eventually find herself injured by the very sword that she holds as a means of defense.
Additionally, the wife whose actions and words are minced with negativity may find her husband too weak or tired to push through the emotional battle lines she has erected.
6,000 Years of World History Proves the Point
I will be the first to agree that men should be strong and valiant enough to deal with this battle scene. There is no doubt that men should be willing to push through those battle lines of emotion with unwavering determination as they wave their own swords of unconditional love and kindness. But, if I may, a woman has an ability to build a mighty strong line of defense that seems almost impenetrable at times. And, instead of crying foul that the man has not the strength nor the determination, a woman will do well to lay down her swords of negativity that have proved to be counterproductive for 6,000 years of world history.