It must be a difficult day to be a woman in that TV, magazines, and billboards are bombarding the minds of women and men alike with what is deemed to be beautiful. In my opinion, this has caused a great deal of insecurity in many women, and it has cause many not to feel beautiful.
Now, let’s fight back a little against this negative thinking. First of all, I like what one radio host said one time. I do not remember who it was, but he said something to the effect of “There are really only ten, perfect super models in the world anyway, so why should women spend their lives trying to meet that standard?”. Not only that, but many of the women shown in magazines and modeling pictures would look far less attractive without computer editing anyway. As a matter of fact, one magazine once published the magazine without computer editing, and people were shocked as to the difference in the appearance of the women.
Also, one of the principles that we promote is that every woman, deep down inside, is asking her husband the same question every day. That question is, “Am I beautiful enough in your eyes so that you would marry me if you had it to do all over again?”. To answer this question in the positive, thus making his wife feel beautiful, men should consider the following principles:
Your Wife Should Become the Standard for Beauty
First of all, if you are a married man, then the minute you said “I do”, your wife should have become the standard for beauty in your eyes. It’s that simple. Her hair, skin complexion, waist line, do I need to go any further, should have become the ultimate standard for beauty as far as you are concerned. That is, when you “tied the knot”, she should have become your one and only supermodel. If not, then you just opened the door to temptation in your life, and, you probably felt less and less motivated to work so that your feel can genuinely feel beautiful.
Marriage is Not About You
Secondly, if you are a married man, then you should remember that marriage is not about you. That is, the purpose of God giving you your wife was not so that you could just live out some type of fantasy. That is, a wife is not just a medium through which her husband can legally carry out his fleshly desires. God gave you a wife so you could provide love and, consequently, security in her life by laying down your life for her and serving her on a day to day basis, thus making her feel beautiful (By the way, I agree with the statement on the movie, “The Little Princess”. “Every girl is a princess.”).
Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”. This verse teaches that men are to imitate Christ’s love for the church in their relationship with their wives.
The next question is obvious. How did Christ love the church? Look at Matthew 20:28:
“. . . The Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.”
In other words, many men have the attitude that the purpose of getting married is so that the wife can serve the man in the area of rearing children, the bedroom scene, providing extra income, and taking care of the housework. This is not a Biblical approach. In fact, Christ did not initiate a relationship with His bride, the church, for the purpose of the church simply serving Him. According to Matthew 20, he initiated a relationship with the church so that He could be a blessing to the church.
If I sound a little forward in this article, remember, this is my personal testimony, and, a few years into marriage, I had to do some rethinking as to the purpose of marriage and my role in the relationship. In fact, the position as “head of the household”, according to the scriptures, is not simply a position of authority, it is a position of responsibility. That is, once I said “I do”, that gave me the responsibility to love, cherish, and minister to my wife unconditionally.
One of my favorite quotes is by Adrian Rogers. In a nutshell, he said, “My wife doesn’t want to be equal with me because then she would have to come down from her pedestal.”