Learn about our Christian Marriage Conferences
To better understand our philosophy and approach, take a look at our new video on The Top Mistake Couples Make in a Fight:
Most couples have great motives, yet lousy methods when it comes to fixing their marriage issues. In our Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting with One Another marriage conferences and retreats, Dr. Force takes great delight in teaching couples to use methods that are not only Biblical, but also effective.
During our conferences and seminars, Dr. Force teaches couples to utilize the Biblical weapons of unconditional love and kindness rather than the weapons of anger, harshness, sarcasm, and unforgiveness. He teaches couples how to do this using what he calls a 2-step process.
Why a 2-Step Process
Why does our 2-step process to solving marriage issues work? Take a look at this excerpt from our soon to be released book to better understand how we discovered this scriptural approach to solving marriage issues:
A Thousand Ways
There are a thousand ways that couples find to head toward what I call the south pole. The south pole is where anger, bitterness, resentment, a lack of communication, little or no intimacy, apathy, and emotional lethargy reside.
When I first started to deal with couples in need as a pastor, I would spend large amounts of time trying to keep couples from taking the thousands of different paths that there are down to the south pole. If a couple had a problem with anger, I would relate as many scriptures as possible that warn people against the use of anger. If their struggle was in the area of communication, I would attempt to give them verses detailing the woes of using ill-advised forms of communication. The only problem was that I found that my counseling was only so effective. I not only found that the tone of the sessions was fairly dark, but many couples were leaving more frustrated than when they entered my office. Finally, a better, faster, and more Biblical approach was discovered.
A Refreshing Approach
Through the course of time, I started to see that the best way to keep couples from taking the hundreds, if not thousands, of roads to the south pole was to simply start heading toward the north pole. In other words, I found that if couples would focus on doing a few positive things right, by virtue of doing those few positive things, they would often stop doing the hundreds of negative things they found to do to irritate one another. This was all discovered as I considered the teachings of Christ in the gospel of Matthew.
In Matthew 22:37-40, the scriptures tell us the following:
‘Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.’
This teaching was probably mesmerizing to the average Jew in that Jesus took all of the Old Testament commands and summed them up into two positive commands. He essentially taught that by virtue of loving God and loving others, His followers would not be doing all the negative things that God said not to do in the Old Testament.
While musing on this subject, I took the time to apply this same principle in part to marriage, and I found something out. I saw that though there are times when we need to hear the thou shalt nots of marriage, there was a more refreshing and Biblical approach. I found that if couples would concentrate on taking two positive steps, by virtue of taking those two positive steps, they would often stop doing the hundreds of negative things that they would often do to hurt the relationship. Thus, we started to teach a 2-step process to fighting for your marriage without fighting with one another.”
What our Marriage Conferences Look Like
Our marriage conferences are usually three to five sessions in length, and, they are typically over the course of a Friday evening and Saturday morning.
Over the years, Dr. Force has spoken to a wide variety of audiences. Whether you are a church, company, or non-profit organization, Dr. Force knows how to adapt his teachings to your specific audience.
Also, Dr. Force is able to adapt his material to any format that you have. Therefore, whether you are looking for a speaker for a banquet and you are looking for a power talk on marriage, or if you are looking to host a three to five session marriage conference, Dr. Force will adjust accordingly.
Listen in On One of Our Christian Marriage Conferences
Happy Individuals are Needed for a Happy Marriage:
The Top Mistake Couples Make in a Fight
Marriage is a Bridge