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Maybe You Do Not Have Marriage Problems After All

 

At our last marriage conference in Missouri, I spent a good amount of time talking about the rage that is in the average person’s heart in our day. The reason for this is simple: the further away a society runs from the reality of the cross, the more rage they carry in their souls.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


After 25 Years Of Marriage – This Is What We Have Learned

 

 

This December, my wife and I will have been married for 25 years. I am more than thankful for the lessons we have learned along the way.

 

A Few Lessons We Have Learned

 

Though we are certainly not the Corn-flake couple,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why Marital Love Is Better Than Single Love

 

It is one thing to have a bad problem. It is another to come up with a bad solution to that problem. Unfortunately, this is what is occurring as singles see marrieds struggle.

Many singles are developing a disdain for the institution of marriage while others are vowing to stay away from marriage altogether.

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Dallas, TX How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conference, August 4th, 2018


 

As of 4/17 at 7:17 pm est, 62 tickets remaining

 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight For Your Marriage – Dallas Marriage Conference on Saturday, August 4th, 2018 in Dallas, TX. Author,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Have You Been There And Done That With God?

During the first session of our marriage conferences, we take the time to discuss the importance of the Father’s presence in each of our lives. In fact, I often say that without an eternal view of our lives and marriages, our advice simply serves as five smooth stones placed in the wrong sling of selfishness and humanism.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Does Your Marriage Suffer From Emotional Amnesia?

Does your marriage suffer from what I call emotional amnesia? That is, when a problem arises, do you or your spouse act as if you have never learned good conflict resolution skills? Do you forget about the emotional heart strings that have been tied throughout the years and give place to your raw emotions?

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Posted in Marriage Advice


This Is What It Looks Like

 

It seems that there is a thread that runs through much of my coaching, teaching, and writing as I teach individuals and couples about the ways of God in relation to marriage and relationships. This thread can be summed up in this little phrase: this is what it looks like.

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The Greatest Lesson I Have Learned After 16 Years Of Counseling

The longer I coach and counsel couples, the more I am convinced that the greatest need for spouses is to gaze upon Christ through His Word. (II Corinthians 3:18)

We all have a dividing line between our soul and our spirit (Hebrews 4:12), and I am finding that unless that dividing line is precisely hit with the presence of the Father (John 14:21-23),

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Way We Treat Our Wives Says A Lot About . . .

 

The way I treat my wife says a lot about my relationship with God. Far fetched? Let me use a little of the King James vernacular here in response: I trow not.

I John 4:20 teaches us that if we cannot love those that we see,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


What Is Your Relationship IQ?

Do problems in a marriage change the marriage or accentuate the Relationship IQ of the spouses involved? In many instances, I choose the latter.

Wisdom is the DNA of success. It is the canvas upon which the portrait of success is painted, and, to be very frank, this is why far too many marriages present such a bleak picture of marriage.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why We Are So Excited About Coming To Missouri In March


 

I have to be honest. I love our How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Conferences, and I am especially excited about coming to Missouri in March, 2018. Here’s a few reasons why:

 

I am originally from the St.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


How To Stop Those Merry-Go-Round Conversations

Many couples call me because they are on a conversational merry-go-round and they do not know how to jump off.

Frankly, we have found in many cases there is one primary way to exit these tiresome discussions that seem to go no where, and it almost always involves the following: stop arguing with your spouse’s perception.

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Posted in Communication in Marriage


Discontentment – The Great Killer of Marriages

Discontentment causes people to feel that their environment needs to change, when, in many cases (yet not all), the problem is not their environment, but the instability in their heart. (James 4:1-2)

Discontent spouses often feel they received the short end of the the stick in life, rushed into matrimony,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why I’m So Fired Up

I did some math the other day, and I realized that in 25 years I will be 70 years of age. That said, I guess it’s time to just go all out and attack the radical problems of our day with radical solutions.

Marriage is the axle to which every spoke in our society is connected.

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The Most Important Question For Your Marriage

I find that the problem with many is not so much that they fail to give the right answers as much as they tend to ask the wrong questions.

For many, instead of asking, “Should I leave my marriage?”, “Are we compatible?”, “Is there too much water under the bridge?”,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Charlotte, NC – Marriage Class, February 17th, 2018

 

 

This Event is Sold Out

 

On February 17th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Charlotte, North Carolina. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Our Recent Iowa Marriage Conference

What a great time we had in Le Mars, Iowa at our How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage & Parenting Conference in September. It was definitely an adventurous weekend that involved flight cancellations and a massive hurricane called Irma as well as a great marriage conference.

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Why Men Are Protesting

 

I am finding more and more men that are just plain frustrated, and their frustration appears to have some semblance of validity.

Quite simply, many men seem to be lining up in protest against what they feel is an uneven patch on the battle ground of relationships.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Missouri – How to Fight For Your Marriage – Marriage Conference, March 17th 2018


 

This event is Sold Out. A Waiting List is available on our registration page.

 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight For Your Marriage – Missouri Marriage Conference on Saturday,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Ocala, Florida Marriage Class – February 10th, 2018

 

As of February 2nd at 9:19 pm est, 2 Tickets Remaining

 

On February 10th, 2018, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class for couples in need.

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Posted in Upcoming Events


You Only Live Forever

 

I often hear spouses in troubled marriages say things like, “You only live once. If I don’t jump ship now. How much time will I have to start all over and enjoy a good marriage.”

The problem, however, is that, if we are in Christ,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


What Happens To Men When Women Get Mad

A man may act defensive, inconsiderate, or non-nonchalant when his wife is upset, but I am not so convinced this is his initial reaction deep down inside.

Generally speaking, men are goal-oriented. In fact, I find that most men really do want to please their wives. However, when this goal goes unmet,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Start Living The Movies You Say You Love

 

Many seem to be willing to watch a movie, but few seem to know what it takes to live out a good movie script in their lives.

 

The Valiant Rescue

 

We have all seen the movies portraying that valiant rescue of the woman by the man.

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Posted in Issues Relating to Husbands


No Marriage Runs On Empty

 

Every marriage is like a well. Without a source outside of itself, it will fall short in producing that which it was designed to supply.

I am a pastor, director of Hitting Home, father of eight, boys varsity basketball coach, and an owner of another family business we started about seven years ago.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


How To Use Your Pain For Good

I always backed down in a discipleship or counseling session when someone said they were in pain. Mostly because I did not want to overstep my bounds as a person that was a fare stranger to this foe.

Most of you know our story by now. You are aware that pain entered our lives as a family about a year ago upon the passing of our sweet Grace.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


The Day I Became A Man

 

Manhood does not come by accident. In fact, I often say that the journey to manhood is not a pretty process. That is, it is a downright ugly path at times that requires almost more than our soft society is able to stomach.

All that being said,

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Posted in Issues Relating to Husbands


Why Fear Is Worse Than Greed

 

There are two emotions in life that cause hardships in our relationship with God, our spouses, and our children. Though one seems to get a pass on many an occasion, both are extremely destructive. These menaces are fear and greed.

If fear and greed were villains,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Marriage Class – McDonough, Georgia, October 21st, 2017

 

 

As of October 19th at 5:34 pm, 1 Ticket Remaining

 

On Saturday, October 21st, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in McDonough, Georgia. This class will be a smaller interactive class,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Great Marriage Or A Great Wife?

My wife and I could destroy one another if we wanted to. Yep, that’s exactly what I said. Even though I am a marriage coach, author of a marriage book, marriage speaker, and a pastor, we could easily focus on the past, nitpick our idiosyncrasies, and wake up each morning with a load of case files against the other.

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What To Do When An Emotional Storm Comes Through

I have been a Christian since the age of 17 and my flesh is no more saved today than the first day I came to Christ. Though it’s a little frustrating at times, it was also the admission of the apostle Paul when he said “in me (that is,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Marriage & Parenting Conference, September 9th, 2017, Le Mars, Iowa

 

 

As of September 4th at 10:53 am, 4 tickets remaining.

 

We are very excited about our upcoming How to Fight for Your Family – Marriage and Parenting Conference in Le Mars, Iowa on Saturday,

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Posted in Upcoming Events


Marriage Class – August 5th, 2017, Ocala, Florida


 

As of June 1st, Sold Out

 

On Saturday, August 5th, 2017, we are hosting a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage Class in Ocala, Florida. This particular class will be a smaller interactive class,

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Adulting? Really??

It was just a few months ago that I heard the word “adulting” for the first time. I have to be honest. I was a little taken aback with its mere existence. That is, the very presence of the word should speak volumes to us in that if we even need such a word,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Headship Looks A Lot Like Submission

 

In our out-of-balance society, we often have a very distorted view of the Biblical teaching on headship in marriage.

The scriptures teach that the man is the head of the wife. This is evident in Ephesians 5:23 where God says:

 

For the husband is the head of the wife,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Speaking All Day in Keystone Heights, Florida, May 21st, 2017

On May 21st, 2017, we have the honor of ministering at the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida. Dr. Force will be speaking during the morning and the evening service.

 

Morning Service

 

During the morning service at 10 am,

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The Emotionally Entitled Spouse

 

We are all well aware of financial entitlement, but have you ever considered that some have an issue with emotional entitlement? You may also not be aware that this sense of emotional entitlement can cause great difficulties in any marriage or premarriage relationship.

 

Where Does Entitlement Come From?

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Controlling Through Emotion – Does Your Spouse Have a Choice?

 

How many options are on the table when you have a disagreement with your spouse? That is, are they able to disagree or refrain from giving you what you desire without you losing your cool, getting huffy, or pouting? If not, then there is a good possibility that you are controlling your spouse through your emotions.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Our Recent Marriage/Singles Conference in Columbus

Rachel and I really enjoyed being at the Father’s House in Columbus, Ohio this past weekend. This was my fourth time speaking at this growing church, and I would have to say that every time we come it seems like even more of an enjoyable time.

 

Similar Stories

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Turning Chunks of Coal Into Diamonds

 

Life is all about taking the chunks of coal that we find and turning them into diamonds. To be honest, we have two choices in life: complain about the coal or turn it into something better.

What the enemy means for our destruction is often the very platform that God intends to use for our blessing.

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Enjoyed Our Time at the Florida Shindig – 2017

We were very blessed to be a part of the Florida Shindig – 2017 this last week. A shout out to Butch Oxendine and his family for planning such an encouraging event.

 

50 Families From 19 States

 

You may be asking yourself,

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Marriage Conference – Columbus, Ohio – February 24th-26th, 2017


 

We are excited to be returning to the Father’s House International in Columbus, Ohio from February 24th-26th, 2017 for a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage / Singles Conference. Below are a few helpful details about this event.

 

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Posted in Upcoming Events


What’s Wrong With Trying To Change Your Spouse?

It is very interesting to see the type of statements and thoughts that pass as normal and acceptable thinking that are not only unbiblical, but, if I may, absolutely absurd. One of those thoughts is often voiced in any of the following ways:

 

I am looking for someone that won’t try to change me.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Why We Have A Good Marriage

 

I can secure the finest black powder and the best cannon balls, but if the angle of the cannon is off, then I should never expect to hit my target.

Why is it that a number of spouses have made what they feel are all the right changes,

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Posted in Marriage Advice


I Feel Your Pain

 

For the first time in my life, I believe I can honestly say, “I feel your pain.”

Many of our readers are already aware that this last year we lost our 12 year old daughter, Grace Evangeline, in an automobile accident. Though we have been surrounded by His Presence and care over the last 7 months,

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings, Marriage Advice


Our Recent Marriage and Family Conferences in IN, WI, and FL

 
We were very blessed during our recent road trip to Wisconsin, Indiana, and then back to Florida for a very wonderful marriage conference. The trip featured:
 

  • 3400+ miles in 11 days
  • 7 different beds
  • My first trip to Chicago that did not involve O’hare airport
  • The Ark Encounter
  • 12 teaching times on marriage and family issues

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Be Your Way Out Of Your Marriage Problems

Everyone wants to know what to do in order to move forward in their relationships, but few seem to realize that even the best attempts at doing something different still miss the mark.

The ultimate goal in solving marriage issues or refining a pre marriage relationship should never be to do more as much as it should be to be what God would have you to be.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Every Marriage Has A Belief System

 

You may think that you are just an impatient spouse. However, it could be that impatience is only a secondary issue. Your real problem may lie in other areas.

 

A Futile Approach

 

Many feel that the answer for their marriage problems is to just work harder at showing more patience.

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Posted in Marriage Advice


Taking the Risk to Forgive

 

There is no fool-proof approach to forgiving your spouse. That is, to move forward in any relationship, risk is always going to be a factor.

Many seem to have the notion that once they feel 100% safe that they will take the risk necessary to open their hearts once again.

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Posted in Forgiveness


If You Could Say Just One Thing To A Newlywed Couple

 

Last week, we were coming back from ministering at a family conference in Wisconsin and I met a young man that was soon to be married. In fact, he was a young Christian man that is about three weeks away from marriage.

After the meal,

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