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Speaking All Day in Keystone Heights, Florida, May 21st, 2017

On May 21st, 2017, we have the honor of ministering at the Freedom Baptist Church in Keystone Heights, Florida. Dr. Force will be speaking during the morning and the evening service.

 

Morning Service

 

During the morning service, the topic will be God’s Provision During Our Time Of Need.

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Emotional Entitlement

 

We are all well aware of financial entitlement, but have you ever considered that some have an issue with emotional entitlement? You may also not be aware that this sense of emotional entitlement can cause great difficulties in any marriage or premarriage relationship.

 

Where Does Entitlement Come From?

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Controlling Through Emotion – Does Your Spouse Have a Choice?

 

How many options are on the table when you have a disagreement with your spouse? That is, are they able to disagree or refrain from giving you what you desire without you losing your cool, getting huffy, or pouting? If not, then there is a good possibility that you are controlling your spouse through your emotions.

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Our Recent Marriage/Singles Conference in Columbus

Rachel and I really enjoyed being at the Father’s House in Columbus, Ohio this past weekend. This was my fourth time speaking at this growing church, and I would have to say that every time we come it seems like even more of an enjoyable time.

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Turning Chunks of Coal Into Diamonds

 

Life is all about taking the chunks of coal that we find and turning them into diamonds. To be honest, we have two choices in life: complain about the coal or turn it into something better.

What the enemy means for our destruction is often the very platform that God intends to use for our blessing.

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Enjoyed Our Time at the Florida Shindig – 2017

We were very blessed to be a part of the Florida Shindig – 2017 this last week. A shout out to Butch Oxendine and his family for planning such an encouraging event.

 

50 Families From 19 States

 

You may be asking yourself,

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Marriage Conference – Columbus, Ohio – February 24th-26th, 2017


 

We are excited to be returning to the Father’s House International in Columbus, Ohio from February 24th-26th, 2017 for a How to Fight for Your Marriage – Marriage / Singles Conference. Below are a few helpful details about this event.

 

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What’s Wrong With Trying To Change Your Spouse?

It is very interesting to see the type of statements and thoughts that pass as normal and acceptable thinking that are not only unbiblical, but, if I may, absolutely absurd. One of those thoughts is often voiced in any of the following ways:

 

I am looking for someone that won’t try to change me.

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The Promises of God and Marriage

 

I can secure the finest black powder and the best cannon balls, but if the angle of the cannon is off, then I should never expect to hit my target.

Why is it that a number of spouses have made what they feel are all the right changes,

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I Feel Your Pain

 

For the first time in my life, I believe I can honestly say, “I feel your pain.”

Many of our readers are already aware that this last year we lost our 12 year old daughter, Grace Evangeline, in an automobile accident. Though we have been surrounded by His Presence and care over the last 7 months,

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings, Marriage Advice


Our Recent Marriage and Family Conferences in IN, WI, and FL

 
We were very blessed during our recent road trip to Wisconsin, Indiana, and then back to Florida for a very wonderful marriage conference. The trip featured:
 

  • 3400+ miles in 11 days
  • 7 different beds
  • My first trip to Chicago that did not involve O’hare airport
  • The Ark Encounter
  • 12 teaching times on marriage and family issues

 

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Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


Be Your Way Out Of Your Marriage Problems

Everyone wants to know what to do in order to move forward in their relationships, but few seem to realize that even the best attempts at doing something different still miss the mark.

The ultimate goal in solving marriage issues or refining a pre marriage relationship should never be to do more as much as it should be to be what God would have you to be.

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You Are Not An Impatient Spouse

 

You may think that you are just an impatient spouse. However, it could be that impatience is only a secondary issue. Your real problem may lie in other areas.

 

A Futile Approach

 

Many feel that the answer for their marriage problems is to just work harder at showing more patience.

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Taking the Risk to Forgive

 

There is no fool-proof approach to forgiving your spouse. That is, to move forward in any relationship, risk is always going to be a factor.

Many seem to have the notion that once they feel 100% safe that they will take the risk necessary to open their hearts once again.

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Just One Chance to Make a Difference

 

Last week, we were coming back from ministering at a family conference in Wisconsin and I met a young man that was soon to be married. In fact, he was a young Christian man that is about three weeks away from marriage.

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How to Make a Man Want to Pull His Hair Out

Some women learn from an early age that though they may not be able to overpower the men in their lives, they can use emotional manipulation as a wrestling move of sorts to get their way. As a father of seven with four girls, I have seen this first hand.

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Marriage Emphasis Night – Moores Hill, Indiana

You may not know where Moores Hill, Indiana is located. Neither do we, but we are headed there for a Marriage Emphasis Night on Tuesday, September 13th at 7 pm.90 Minutes that Could Save Your MarriageThe event in Moores Hill, IN will last about 90 minutes. During the event, Dr.

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How to Simplify the Marriage Problem-Solving Process

 

Faith in God is obeying Him and leaving all the consequences to Him. This is why Proverbs 3:6 teaches:

 

“In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

 

Our primary concern is never to be a specific result as much as our obedience to our Heavenly Father.

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Better Forgivers Than Lovers

 

During the last session of our marriage conferences, we will often have a question and answer time. It is during these times that I will often receive questions that indicate something interesting about a few of our hearers.

Many times, I feel that some in our audience feel that we have a good marriage because we rarely irritate one another.

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A Woman Really Wants What She Doesn’t Want

If a man only works at providing an atmosphere of love and safety in his marriage, he will fall short of fulfilling his role as a husband. Though love and safety are vital, a man also needs to add a little danger to the mix in order to complete the romantic puzzle.

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September 23rd-24th, 2016, Marriage Conference, Ocala, Florida

We are very excited about our Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With One Another Marriage Conference at One Life Fellowship in Ocala, Florida on September 23rd and 24th, 2016.

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General Details:

 

  • Childcare will be provided up to 5th grade
  • Preregistration will be required
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    September 16-18, 2016, Family Conference – Eau Claire Wisconsin

    We are looking forward to being a part of the Eau Claire Gospel Center’s Family Conference from September 16th-18th, 2016. Below are a few details about the event. Should be a great time.

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    Dates:

    Friday, September 16th thru Sunday,

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    Once Her Spirit is Wounded . . .

    It was a hard lesson to learn as a young man, but once my wife’s spirit was wounded, all the words and logic in the world would fail in making things better in the immediate. Only time, action, and a genuine change in my attitude would prove to help.

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    It seems that one of the most important lessons I teach men is that there is often a price to pay for losing their cool,

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    Because Someone Has to Say It

     

    I am increasingly mesmerized at the amount of Christians that have a light view of the marriage covenant. Instead of till death do them part, it’s as if they vowed, “as long as I am happy”, “till we grow weary of one another”, or “as long as my expectations are met”.

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    Are You a Conditional Lover?

     

    The tendency to love conditionally seems to run through our bloodstream. I see this as I pastor, counsel, deal with children, conduct business, and manage my own emotions.

    Let’s face it, we are conditional lovers by nature. Maybe this is why God described mankind in the following way in Romans 3:17:

     

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    It’s Hard to Describe

    On June 1st, our little community in Ocala, Florida came together with heavy hearts to remember our Grace Evangeline.  We were also all in need of a little clarity, healing, and the peace of God.

    I feel the Lord answered our prayers in an almost unexplainable way in that we left the memorial service with a natural sense of sorrow yet a sense that God had strangely moved in our hearts to draw us closer through the passing of our sweet Grace.

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    Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


    The Last 10 Days of Our Lives

     

    We have always viewed our audience as an extension of our family, especially the family of God.

    Over the last 10 days, we have experienced a very sad chapter of our lives as we have lost our little Grace Evangeline. In the picture to the right she is the little girl in the red bow.

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    Posted in Dr. Raymond Force's Musings


    Marriage Emphasis Night, Williamston, NC, May 18th, 2016

    We are excited to be having a Marriage Emphasis Night at Fellowship Baptist Church in Williamston, NC on Wednesday, May 18th at 7:30 pm.

     
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    Author, speaker, and marriage coach, Dr. Raymond Force, will be teaching couples a Biblical and refreshing approach to strengthening their marriage.

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    I Can’t Take it Anymore

     

    It is more than common for men to read an excerpt from my marriage book or one of our blog posts and reply with statements as such:

     

    “Just remember, It goes both ways.”

    “Why are most of the marriage books about the men?”

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    Where Men Blow It

    A woman is often asking her husband for the same treatment he wants from Christ. However, men sometimes prove to be hypocritical in that they expect from Christ what they are unwilling to provide for their wives.

    Here are a few areas where I find that men show this subtle form of hypocrisy:

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    Unsettled Hearts Lead to Unsettled Relationships

     

    A Heart-Sick People

     

    As Americans, we are not a very settled people. In fact, we are probably the most depressed and dissatisfied generation that America has ever produced.

    Here are a few reasons why we seem to have almost an epidemic on our hands of people that are heart sick with feelings of anxiousness,

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    Posted in Marriage Advice


    How Dysfunctional People Make You Feel Dysfunctional

     

    Dysfunctional People Make You Feel Dysfunctional

     

    Dysfunctional people have a way of turning the tables on others. That is, they find a way to make those around them feel like they are the problem, when, in reality, their turbulent heart is the source of turbulence in their lives.

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    Just How Important is Communication in a Marriage

     

    So How Important is Communication in a Marriage?

     

    Though I loathe cliche’s concerning marriage, some phrases and expressions are overused for a reason, they are universally applicable.

    To say communication is important in a marriage may be a cliche, but it is,

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    Posted in Communication in Marriage


    Great Lovers or Great Fighters?

    My wife and I are not so much great lovers, but good fighters. However, our fight is not with one another as much as it is against the evils of society and our world.

    If a couple’s only goals involve securing a good retirement, purchasing things, mere survival,

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    How Our Florida Marriage Conference Can Help Your Marriage

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    I Have More Faith Than You Do

     

    First off, I want you to know that though we charge for our marriage conferences, we barely break even. So, what I am about to say is not a way to get you to buy a ticket.

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    How the Bible Helps My Marriage

     

    Here’s How the Bible Helps My Marriage

     

    The older I get and the longer I teach the Bible, the bolder I become in teaching that the Bible is the best and only standard for couples to follow. Here is a short-list of reasons why I believe this to be the case.

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    Obey Your Way Through Your Marriage Problems

     

    This Last Sunday

     

    This last Sunday, I taught out of the book of Kings and Chronicles. The entire sermon was based on one principle: When Israel’s kings obeyed God, they were blessed by God. When they walked in disobedience to God, their tenures were plagued with treachery and trouble.

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    Christian Marriage Conference – March 19th-20th, Poland / Youngstown, Ohio

     

    Christian Marriage Conference – March 19th-20th, 2016 – Poland/Youngstown, Ohio

     

    We are looking forward to coming to the Poland/Youngstown, Ohio area on March 19th-20th to minister at their Christian Marriage Conference and Marriage Emphasis Sunday.

    To register or to find out more details about the event,

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    Christian Marriage Conference – March, 12th, 2016, Ocala, Florida

     

    Christian Marriage Conference in Ocala, Florida

     

    Hitting Home Ministries as well as Crossroads Bible Church in Ocala, Florida, is bringing to you a Christian marriage conference on March 12, 2016.

    For details, please visit the web site for Crossroads Church in Ocala,

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    New Year, New Approach to Marriage

     

    Less Effort, More Wisdom

     

    Ecclesiastes 10:10 tells us that sharpening an ax is a much better way to improve the cutting process than simply swinging a little harder.

    In the same way, many of you have worked ever so hard in the last year on your marriage only to come up a little shorter than a year ago.

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    True Love Assumes the Best, I Corinthians 13:7

     

    Few view themselves as an unloving spouse. This is usually because we tend to have what I call comparative holiness. That is, we tend to believe that we are good because we are better than our parents, siblings, neighbors, or how we acted at another time in our lives.

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    Some Things Marriage Counselors and Pastors Are Afraid to Say

     

    Some Things Marriage Counselors and Pastors Are Afraid to Say

     

    There are some things that just need to be said from time to time but those that work with couples may be afraid to say it. Here are a few points that are difficult to articulate in our current culture yet still need to be said.

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    The Mature or Not So Mature Spouse

     

    Are You a Mature or Not So Mature Spouse?

     

    Most of my coaching involves encouraging people to do what their parents should have taught them growing up. Whether the need is to exhibit more self control, show contentment, be thankful, or to love unconditionally,

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    Marriage Evangelism – A Copy for You and a Friend in Need

     

    Marriage Evangelism

     

    I have been told that 3 out of 4 couples that visit church for the first time make that decision because they are having problems in their marriage. That said, this is one of the reasons why I say that all of our counseling and coaching on marriage falls underneath two categories: evangelism or discipleship.

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    How to Get Along with Family During the Holidays

     

    How to Get Along with Family During the Holidays

     

    Someone once said the reason why God gives us friends is because we cannot pick our family. Though humorous, all humor has an element of truth.

    What is a person to do when the only thing they have in common with their family is DNA?

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    Posted in Family Matters


    Who’s in Charge of Your Marriage?

     

    Who or What is in Charge of Your Marriage?

     

    When men fail to love their wives because of what they perceive to be a lack of responsiveness, they are allowing themselves to be controlled by the behavior of their wives. In fact, I find that these two things are occurring when this transpires:

     

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    When You are the Only One Working on the Marriage

     

    When You are the Only One Working on the Marriage

     

    I often receive the question, “Is there hope for my marriage even if I am the only one working on the marriage?” Let me take a few moments to provide some help for those that feel they are a lone ranger of sorts in their marriage.

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    Getting Back to the Family Table, Eating Together

     

    The Family Table

     

    The more I counsel and coach married couples and families the more I find out that many families have pushed away from the family dinner table. However, they have not done this for health purposes as much as for the relationally unhealthy purpose of busyness.

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    Posted in Family Matters


    How to Survive a Loveless Marriage

     

    How to Survive in a Loveless Marriage

     

    It seems to be common to hear people tell me that they feel they are in a loveless marriage. Some wonder how long their time of waiting will last while others feel they are often at their breaking point.

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    Posted in Marriage Advice


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